I have been married for about 9 years seperated two of them and i am still not happy we have been working on this so called relation ship for about 1 1/2 years. i know he cares but i do not love him in any way sooooooo
2007-05-07 12:45:25 · 9 answers · asked by chelesita36 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him you want a divorce and move on so you can be happy. Life is to short to live with stress everyday. If there is no way the marriage can be saved then let go and do what you need to do. This will also help him move forward with his life. If you don't love him, tell him there is no more hope.
2007-05-07 13:28:12 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you doing... sometimes people need a good kick in the pants. Friends will pander to your problem.. but that is not going to help you move on.
You my friend need to wake up to yourself and stop feeling sorry for yourself.. I know your probably saying what does she know, she doesn't know how i feel.
Your right, nobody knows what mental state your really in.
I do know this, you are making your self miserable and if you are not doing something positive to get out of this relationship.... your a sucker for punishment.
Start looking at life as a fairground there are ups and downs, highs and lows, the dreaded roller coaster and then there is also fun, laughing, exhilaration the rush of something new.
You make of your life what ever you want BUT NOTHING is going to happen until you do something about it.
Grab hold with both hands girl and make it happen. Happiness is just around the corner, just be careful that when you do FINALLY make this positive move you don't go falling for the next available so called NICE GUY.
Good luck buddy and chin up
2007-05-07 13:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only live once . If you look ahead another 9 yrs from now where do you want to be?You won't be getting younger. Children grow up move out and have families of their own where does that leave you? A miserable old woman with a man you don't love.You should do some soul searching and take steps to enjoy your life either with or without your husband.
2007-05-07 15:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by sweetie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so. I bet life is pretty numb. duel. Have you hared about an mini weekend vacation. Leave the kids w/ love ones and just GO. (camping, anywhere,) Checking to a hotel on the road to the Beach or desert (palm springs) and pretend you just meet at a bar or at the beach. Then just play along. Then do your thing in the room. Then talk / cry about problems away.
Words can only go so far, just do what you got to do.
or have an affair, and call it quits with the sex partner.
2007-05-07 13:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if there are children involved then your first priority should be to provide them with a stable and secure home that includes their father. After all, they didn't ask for their parents to be selfish idiots who can't get along.
If by chance you do NOT have children, then why are you wasting your time? Love, romance, excitement, and passion shouldn't be something you pay a therapist thousands of dollars to get! Either you love each other or you don't! Simple as that! But again, if kids are involved (which you completely failed to mention) then your first priortity should ALWAYS be them. Your personal needs don't count anymore. Nor should they as long as you're a responsible parent.
2007-05-07 12:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Staying in a relationship that doesn't make you happy is bad for you and your partner. In the case where there are kids, it's bad for them as well. It's old school thinking that you stay together in a marriage for the kids. Why? Should you stay miserable? Is looking for your own happiness selfish? No, it's not. Think about it. You become happy they you can give more to your kids because you feel better about yourself and that positive energy goes from you to them. Yea, it's harder to do - it's easy to stay and be miserable. You keeping him hanging on is not doing him any good nor you. You aren't being selfish by wanting to be happy, you are being brave.
2007-05-07 13:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by J S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't in love with him, then there is no reason to work on the relationship. You are just prolonging the process of moving on and starting your own life. Are you a bit scared to move on? Don't be... It's better to be alone and happy and doing what you want out of life than to be in the place that you are in now...
2007-05-07 13:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by jules 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still trying if you dont love the guy and dont want to be there?? Get a divorce and cut the bull!
2007-05-07 13:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by marisanj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sooooooo move on !!!!!!!!!!! why are you staying??????? Money? Children?????? afraid??????? women leave home every day !!!!!!!!!!! Life is to short to be unhappy!!!!!!!!!!!!! sooooooo make some goals and some plans and get started on your new life !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! happy future !!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-07 20:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by Harmony2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋