My friends said I'm a white girl trapped in a black girls body. What do I do?

Question

I know that they are just kidding, but it still makes me feel bad. they said this because I dont use slang and sometimes dont understand the slang that they use. i didnt know what the name of some kind of hair jell was that most black females use. and, i dont know...just the way I speak, in general. i dont know what I should say to them if they ever say that again. i dont want to try to be someone i'm not and try to "act more black" because there's no such thing. i am who i am and I'm proud of that. but it still sort of hurts to be called that.

Answer 1

Okay listen, just be who you are. "Being Black" is just an expression. Be proud that you may use correct English most of the time. Slang can only get you so far in life. There is a time and place for everything. To make you feel better I don't know every quote on quote black gel products either because I don't use them. No matter if you use slang terms or correct English you are still Black. Trust me, you will be reminded of it in some fashion or form. To be honest the smart ones know how to speak correct English throughout the week and on the weekend they speak "the Dun language." Ignore the haters. I do everyday. Keep conducting yourself the way you do , speaking a certain way does not take away from the fact you are Black. Girl brush your shoulders off. There is no such thing as acting or speaking Black. People of all races speak incorrectly and it has nothing to do with ones ethnicity.

Answer 2

Honey do you!!!!! If they disagree with the way you are its because you are learning and trying to better yourself. Do not let them try to make you more black you are right no such thing. Make sure you do what you have to do to make sure you survive and make it in the world because employers are not worried about your hair gel or how much slang you can use. Trust me on that!!!!! Be proud of who you are and who your parents raised you to be. That is all that matters as long as you continue to be you. You may want to find another crowd of friends because they sound like they may be a little jealous of you as well.

Answer 3

Like you said "I am who I am". Don't worry about it. I was the same way growing up. I grew up in the suburbs, our parents didn't allow us to speak slang. When I reached highschool I started going to school with kids from the inner city. I was so lost. I had no clue as to what some were saying. Once a girl said something to me and I thought she wanted to borrow a pencil. Everyone laughed. Apparently she was saying she liked my top. I was SO embarassed. I still have no clue as to what she said. My friends laughed at me, but it was all in good fun. They accepted me for who I was, as true friends should. There were a few who said "I acted white" or called me an "oreo" but I didn't let it bother me. My true friends loved me for me even though they called me "white girl". Now my daughter is in the same situation (shes 17) and could care less what people say. She has friends of all races and is very secure in who she is. Don't ever change just to be accepted.

Answer 4

not quite sure how old you are, but the sooner you disavow yourself from the "oreo"/wannabe thinking, the better off you'll be. Just because mainstream media seems to dictate a particular way to "act black" doesn't mean you have to adopt that way of thinking. Furthermore, people who use terms like "acting black" or "white on the inside" are quite a bit behind the curve in terms of societal change. Rather than involve yourself in the bottomless quagmire of trying to prove that you are more or less black in order to impress people, look to prove to yourself that you can accomplish anything you wish regardless of your color. Talking a certain way or hair gel or what-have-you does not dictate your race: those are periphery that often only serve to make insecure people more insecure about how their race "acts." do yourself a favor: stop worrying about appeasing your white friends/black friends; stop stressing over what slang you should/shouldn't know; stop preoccupying yourself with judging your "blackness" based upon media-driven, archaic stereotypes; and concentrate on just being yourself (you'll attract better friends that way, too).

Answer 5

just because you dont talk a way the stereotypical black woman doesnt mean you are any less of a black woman. Just tell your friends that you dont have to speak slang to be black and it is stereotypical to believe so or even joke. Just because they were joking doesnt make it any les hurtful.

Answer 6

i presumed you meant which you have been a white woman in a black women physique meaning a curvaceous physique. in any case ,? considering whilst is song categorised for each race. i do no longer care what human beings think of approximately me I pay attention to in spite of i admire. And once you're saying you communicate diverse. ? Do you propose which you're meant to communicate in a definite way merely considering you're black?.

Answer 7

Be who you are that is all you can be. The next time they tease you like this say ok and laugh it off.Once they see that you are confident n who you are then they well let alone little by little until either they get tired of picking or you become more confident in who you are" A Strong Black Woman" No Just who you are not Your Race....Best of Luck to You

Answer 8

first of all don't buy into the myth that there is a way to act if you are black or white. tell you're friends what you just told the rest of the world and if they can't understand that you dislike that comment and refrain from using it, then find new ones. don't worry about race you need to work on standing up for yourself and demanding respect. let them know what's on your mind while remaining lady-like with your dignity intact and the situation will work itself out.

Answer 9

Friends tend to kidd about this, but sometimes it can get very hurtful or annoying. Don't let it get to you. Be proud of who you are and don't let anybody try to tell you who to be and what to do. If your friends ever say that again to you, tell them that you are proud to be !black and that you don't care how ''white'' you act, it's just another unique thing about you!

Answer 10

It ridiculous when people say such foolish things.....there's nothing called speaking "white or Black."

*The way you speak has everything to do with the area in which you were born or live, and your social status and less to do with the color of your skin.