Okay, so my boyfriend is a smoker. He knew I hated it so smoked away from me. I kept asking him to quit, and he finally said he would for me. So it was his second night, and we were laying in bed, and he started to feel really sick, and kept sweating and shaking. I felt really bad for him, so I was holding him close to me, like I was protecting him. I know it sounds really dumb, but I felt really good, and just laid there rubbing his hair. I felt really protective of him. I feel bad for him, but it made me feel special/important, whatever you call it. What was it, maternal instincts or something? Should I feel bad about this? Do any other girls have this guilty pleasure? Am I normal?
We're both 19.
2007-05-07 11:19:09 · 15 answers · asked by Harmonics 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
we've been together for a year and a half. yeah, its really hard on him, and i'm trying to be as sopportive as possible. i guess it makes me feel important; i feel like he needs me to protect him.
2007-05-07 11:55:29 · update #1
no thats cute!! u shouldnt feel guilty at all!! its nice that hes quiting for you and its important that u are there for him threw everything. it might take a while for him to stop having withdrawls so its important that you are there for him as much as possible...how long have you guys been together?
2007-05-07 11:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie Rose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that's normal. Sounds like you have a strong maternal instinct. That will serve you well, as a wife and a mother. Sometimes you have to be strong and loving and supportive when your husband and or kids are sick. Sounds like you enjoy that, so that's good!
2007-05-07 18:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You will be a great mother!! I feel the same way with my dog heheheheheh i love her so much I always stroke her fur and yeah anyway its perfectly normal actually the other day i was jokingly rubbing my guy friends hair and then im like hey this feels good hehe it was weird but your fine!!!
2007-05-07 19:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly Taylor 49 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sounds like you are very protective of the ones you care for. No biggie and nothing to feel worried about. Your boyfriend was having withdrawal from his ciggies and you holding him while he was going thru it may help. Now, when he is away from you is another story.
2007-05-07 18:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone about the maternal instinct.. just be careful... some guys HATE that!!.. just dont go overboard and actually turn into his ma! LOL
2007-05-07 19:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs something with small amounts of nicotene to ween him of his ciggs. His shaking ans sweating are part of withdrawl from ciggs and his body is addicted to ciggs. He can physically and mentally change without a little bit of nicotene.
Then slowly decrease his amount until it's gone.
2007-05-07 18:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by McWalmart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats maternal instinct. I feel that way too. I like it when my husband needs me sometimes. If you're a freak, so am I, lol
2007-05-07 18:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by Bomb_chele 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its fine! You have a strong maternal instrick and want whats best for him. Which is to quit smoking =)
2007-05-07 18:27:55 · answer #8 · answered by Hello_Goodbye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not so much a guilty pleasure as nurturuing instint. all women i mean most women do have that instint to want to help and protect or loved ones. dont feel guilty enjoy helping him out but he also needs to be there for you!
2007-05-07 18:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by ursimplyamazing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont feel bad. It is an instinct thing.
2007-05-08 06:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by whs_vikings_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋