Why would a man talk like this about his wife?

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Answer 1

Okay, my take on this is two sided. There are always two sides to a story. Speaking up for the women first, I have to say that it depends on what is going on in the home, if you have little toddlers or school age kids running around the house and they need to be fed, bathed and put to bed you, men must understand that after doing this each day and not to mention working then its gets hard on the woman and while she may be thinking about sex she is too exhausted to have sex and so the only time you may get a break is on the weekend and with the children it can only be a quickie if its in the morning. While the wife feels like being a mother is more important than a sex life, she is choosing what she thinks is best. I think men should take a more pro-active role and help out with the kids and dinner and bath time and that will take pressure off the woman and she would be so please with his assistance it would more than likely make her want to have sex more often and she won't be as tired, especially if he is helping out, so I say that if you have small children the men should help out more or give her a day or two break and let her relax and unwind. ********On the other hand, sex is very important in a marriage. Sex and communication and two must haves in a relationship. As far as men watching porn, big deal, I wouldn't care if my husband watched it, hell I'd even watch it with him because the same stuff he sees on there is the same thing he can see on a video on MTV what's the difference. Porn is not degrading to women, you have to remember these women choose to do this and they get paid very well for it, and although its not a choice of a career I would make, who are we to tell them they can't do it. Women need to realize yes we have a family, kids and a mortgage but we also have a marriage-this is where communication comes into play-You MUST take care of your husband sexual needs or they will stray -bottom line- What you won't do another woman will. It may take a little extra effort on both parts but it can be done and it has been done. You can have the best husband in the world and he can be the worlds greatest dad but if his needs are not being met you are in trouble. This is where the both of you need to discuss what needs to take place, if you need to arrange for a sitter 2 nights a week or take the kids to the grandparents 2 nights a week and come back to the house and screw until the roof fall in, you need this, not just the men but the women need it too. Contrary to what men think, women enjoy sex just as much and we want it just as much but I believe that as a couple you should decide what its going to take to get your sex life back on track. Men, pick up the kids and take them to your parents house for the evening and pick up dinner for you and the wife. Women take the kids over to your families or girlfriends house for the even pick up dinner, just be spontaneous and make a wild passionate night of things. Quit pointing the finger and work together, remember when you got married 2 became 1. Sex is wonderful in a marriage and we need not point fingers or take each other for granted. Good luck and hopefully things will work out

Answer 2

This guy has said nothing wrong. He is only letting women know that a guy wants to have sex with a woman who wants to have sex with him and not just WILLING to have sex with him. There's a big difference. Trust me, if a man cheats on his wife, the other woman won't be wearing flannel with bad breath and saying, "I guess we can have sex if you really need to." The women in those porn movies look like they really want to have sex and guys fantasize about being with a woman who wants him the same way. Be that woman so he won't have to watch that woman. I haven't felt a need to watch my porn since I met my wife for that very reason.

Answer 3

Yes, it is hard to believe how many jerks we have in the world. They forget what they do and want to place the blame on someone else.

Answer 4

i think this man would like his wife to stop being insecure. i think he is saying you might think you are unattractive but the only thing he finds unattractive is her attitude. he is saying please- i want you to turn me on. i hope that guy talks to his wife before the resentment and boredom get to be too much. and i hope his wife can hear what he has to say without feeling as though she is not what he wants. i think you are not hearing what he is really trying to say.