against me if you were going on a date with me? I ask that because when a women has an affair and leaves her husband there was something missing in the marriage. I've figured out what it was and I want to get back in a long term relationship. After 15 years I spent more time being a father than a romantic husband and my ex needed alot of love. Would that matter to you if you where seeing me?
2007-05-07 10:59:43 · 14 answers · asked by tyler d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Quasimad.... We where highschool sweeties and she never said honey I need this or why dont we do this. I took her to dinners and the like but I truly believe that she missed the first love feelings that we had way back in highschool. I'm not justifying her actions because it was very selfish and left two little boys broken hearted.
2007-05-07 11:20:04 · update #1
Why is it necessary to lay out your entire personal life to another? At least initially? And hey! How come it has to be your fault the marriage broke up? Since when has being a good father to your kids a reason for your wife to screw around on you? My friend....she took great license in sleeping with someone else on you and if she was the one who fed you this line then she needs to have her skin flayed.
If you came to this conclusion on your own...then your nuts pal. You can't tell me if she wanted some action she didn't make it known. You mean to tell me she never came to you and said "Hey! Forget the kids for a moment or two...I need some attention over here"? She never approached you on this? Never made any indication that she wasn't satisfied sexually? Not "romantic" either sport. We're talking lust here...plain and simple.
Want my opinion?..not that you already didsn't get it...you're not the bad guy here pal.
You leave the conversation with a new lady friend like this (if she has the audacity to ask) "My wife had an affair with someone else and walked out". If you find it necessary to explain further...tell them you were working long hours to keep her in the lifestyle you and she had become accustomed to and your free time was spent working around the house and spending time with the kids.
Make her out to be the heavy. She is you know. What? Think the ex might tell this woman that it was because you "weren't romantic enough"? Whose the lady friend gonna believe? The ex who was getting laid behind your back while you were working hard and doing all sorts of family stuff with your kids who you love dearly...or you?
2007-05-07 11:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know what it wouldn't matter as long as you show and tell her how much you love her. you've gone through a very painful relationship, and the only good thing that happened in that relationship is that you've learned your lessons. by admitting that you took for granted your ex-wife is already a good start, a real indication that you are willing to change to keep a loved one next time.
practice what you preach. don't just go through the cycle again by being stubborn and going back to your old, usual ways. sometimes, life's lessons hit us so hard that we realize too late the things we've done wrong. and no matter how hard we try to fix the situation, it's already too late because the ones we love has left us. don't allow yourself to be in that same boat again. you've been there and you knew how much pain it can cause you and your loved one.
any girl would want to be with someone who has sincere and genuine intentions. if you say that you will treasure the next relationship you'll have, then prove it, show it, make an effort to make it last. you should never dwell on why your past relationships failed for you will be trapped in the past. Instead, leave it behind. but when you leave and move on, bring with you all the lessons you've learned. this is another chance for you to correct the things you've done wrong before.
it wouldn't matter to me if the guy i'm with had that same history. hey, everyone has a past. as humans, we are all capable of failing. what really matters is now and the future. what really matters is the strong foundation you will build to make the new relationship last so you will not be bound to repeat the history all over again.
2007-05-07 11:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by pinkdot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've learned from your mistakes. I would definately not hold this against you, as a matter of fact, I think it would be a good selling point on getting into a relationship with you. It takes a big person to admitt thier wrongs and try to make things right. Good luck and get out there again!
2007-05-07 11:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by missapparition 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That information should not come up for a while...it's not first date conversation. If you are asked on a first date, then just say, "maybe I'll share that with you down the road but I'm not comfortable talking about it on a first date". You could just put the whole spin on it that she cheated on you and many women will just feel sorry for you....maybe not the smart ones.
2007-05-07 11:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by cbgrace71 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I propose to be user-friendly the guy is the jerk. If he replaced into sound asleep with you previously he have been given married why did he get married to her and to no longer you? we could say he did love you why hasn't he divorced already. Is he merely utilising you? I comprehend you have 2 youngsters, i do no longer think of its a stable thought to leave everywhere the guy ought to take of his youngsters and pay baby help. don't be a fool. Now he might divorce his spouse yet he does not ought to. relies upon what his spouse will do and what he desires to do. stay end dont rush everywhere issues will unreveal as they circulate
2016-10-04 12:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG your funny or stupid.
Marriage is just a legal relationship.
Being married does not make a relationship stronger.
A strong relationship makes a marriage stronger.
Its take two whole people to have a relationship.
If you don't know who you are then you have nothing to give to a relationship.
2007-05-07 11:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women are always looking for an excuse to ram thier intimates with some strange.
wouldn't surprise me if my wife pulled the same stuff on me. Thats just how women operate.
2007-05-07 11:21:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife left you for her lover, that is her issue not yours. I would never hold that against someone (having been cheated upon as a reason not to date them??? WTF!!!). I had an affair on my first husband, but he is not entirely to blame. We had communication difficulties and were probably already doomed as a married couple.
2007-05-07 11:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by SodaLicious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would not deter me at all, especially should there be genuine attraction and affection. I would naturally assume there was something wrong with HER not the guy; which is probably the case.
2007-05-07 11:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should of been a grown mature women to let you know what she wanted from you if you were lacking on something.Its not your fault.
2007-05-07 11:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋