If a person goes out all the time and leaves their significant other at home with the kids....should they charge to babysit?? I know the kids are the responsibility of both parties, but he/she would have to pay someone to do it if they weren't there, so why shouldn't the one at home be compensated somehow?
2007-05-07 09:54:08 · 13 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to chdyer.....if I gave him a bill for cooking and laundry his cheap azz wouldn't be able to afford it...lol
2007-05-07 10:04:00 · update #1
The one at home should be compensated with an equal amount of free time.
2007-05-07 10:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Goes out all the time and leaves their significant other at home with the kids!!!!
Sweet wording.. but i feel its rare thing to happen
If one does so, he/she needs a kick on a**.
Secondly, i would appreciate partners coming forward and share the house chores.. not that one should pay / compensate the other!
After all, both the parents are not in to the business of growing kids.. We shouldnt make life a business deal.
2007-05-08 05:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by Sanjeev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is a good idea unless everything else in your marriage/relationship is split 50/50, because the responsibility of the children belong to both parents, but what i think is worst is that your significant other is out all of the time w/ out you, and that he/she does not care to devote some of that quality time w/ you and the kids!!!
2007-05-07 17:12:15 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are your kids then NO you shouldn't get paid to take care of them..... Its your JOB as their parent. I think the real issue is that your partner is going out of all the time without you. You should talk to them and tell them that you are not happy with the arrangement. Maybe you guys can alternate who gets a free night now and then or get a sitter or family member to watch the kids occasionally and go out together. I say occasionally because as a parent you shouldn't be going out ALL THE TIME unless its a family thing with the kids.. Just my opinion... to each there own.
2007-05-07 17:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by NewMom28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one at home gets to have a deeper bond with there child than the parent that is there.
If you want to punish the other spouse for going out leave the children out of the argument.
2007-05-07 17:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person goes out all the time, that's a problem in itself. Ask for a deal where you each get one night a week out with friends. Otherwise, go for counseling, because you have some big problems.
2007-05-07 17:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know you shouldn't get paid. It sounds like you resent your partner for going out all the time and perhaps there is some inequity in the finances. Deal with those issues.. Why don't you start going out and leaving your spouse with the kids?
2007-05-07 17:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by BROWNIE 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gee, you're a mom, right? You have a responsibity to look fter your children, any time, anywhere. Your husband and you obviously don't have a great relationship if he isn't spending the vast majority of time with you and the children. That's what you need to fix first.
And parents aren't "babysitters" - they are parents.
2007-05-07 17:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a chance to charge to babysit b/c he wouldn't be going out ALL the time without me!!!
2007-05-07 17:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no why would you charge to take care of your own kids. That is just dumb and immature if it bothers you for them to go out all the time then tell them
2007-05-07 17:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by cutebunny1122 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋