My husband and i have an ongoing issue about online usage but in our last arguement he told me that he "gave up" on me. How should i take that? He busted me..busting him with his online activities.
2007-05-07 09:52:39 · 7 answers · asked by lori p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just some additional info. I have alwayse been comfortable with men looking at porn..i used to also. But i have always been comfortable with myself and I knew that my lover was attracted to me. This changed with him when I came home from work early on day and he didnt have time to close all the windows he had open on the comp, cover the webcam and put his dick away...he claimed he was making a tape for me but later that night he wouldnt make love to me saying he "was cold". Although this was an isolated incident it set it in my mind that he doesnt mind lying to me and hiding what he does when i am not home. He taught me how to find out what is being done on the computer..then he installed software to wipe all evidence when i did.
2007-05-08 03:47:25 · update #1
Sounds like too much "online usage" at your house!
2007-05-07 09:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I busted my husband with his online activities. I was in my work computer and he was at home with a "toothache". We have been married for 11 years now and we are working through this with therapy for each other together and seperately. I still am not too sure if he feels so bad because of what he did...or because he got caught. I am still finding it hard to trust after 3 months. Don't let him try to pass the blame on you. He needs to be accountable for his poor choice(s) and work on them.
2007-05-07 17:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly are the two of you doing? Are you both surfing porn sites, or what? If you like the same stuff, surf together. If not, this should be worked out. I don't think giving up is an option for a spouse, unless their is an affair that one refuses to end. Invite him to marriage counseling and work this out with an objective third party.
2007-05-07 17:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the internet has distroyed so many marriages, It is sad. I think it should be a set agreement between a couple to surf together.....
to set limits. I have seen so many busted homes over it, it is sad...I say he should allow you to place a lock on it and only you have pass word, if he is not doing any thing wrong he should not have any trouble with this request..
2007-05-07 17:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree... I think he is talking to someone on line and since you pretty much busted him, he is trying to be a weasle and say he gave up on you.
2007-05-07 16:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes messing around, an about ready to leave
marriage therapy! hurry
2007-05-07 16:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL the joys of marriage..he gave up on you means he doesn't want to try to please you anymore..meaning he oesn't care if you know or if you find out because you guys aren't working out.
2007-05-07 16:57:12 · answer #7 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋