has a woman who has been a lifetime homemaker wasted her life?

Question

Is it useless to be a homemaker once the kids are grown? this is not my situation . I am just wondering what you think, should all women have careers?

Answer 1

No to all questions.

I'd take homemaking over a career any day.

Answer 2

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She has wasted her life only if she feels that her life was a waste.

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Again, only if the homemaker feels that way. There are always things to be done in the home, so someone doing them isn't wasting anything.

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Only if she wants one.

As an aside, I feel this way about male homemakers too.

Answer 3

Some women want and need careers outside the home. Other women think of cooking, cleaning, gardening, child-rearing, baking, etc. as their full-time job.

No, a woman who has faithfully done these things has not wasted her life--she took care of her loved-ones, her home, and put her heart and soul into that.

Just because the kids are grown, does not mean that the homemaker needs a career outside the home (unless she does financially speaking). Additionally, it would be difficult for a long-term, full time homemaker to get established in the business world--she would have to 'settle' for a job that was far beneath her abilities--she's better off doing what she loves at home.

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KayTee made the point 'why should women stay home when the kids are in school and the husband is working...' Just because the woman doesn't work--that doesn't mean she has to stay at home. She can volunteer for a cause she loves, she can join clubs or take classes in things that she's interested in, she can go see friends, go to the movies, go shopping--if she doesn't want a career--and doesn't need the money--why would you want to force her to work? There are plenty of other worthwhile things to do.

Answer 4

No, a lifetime homemaker has not wasted her life ! Women should stay home and raise their Sweet Little Children. When they all get into school, then go out and work. Careers ? Many young women have went to get their degree's in college only to let it all fall behind them, once they get married and have children. One college graduate, studied to be a teacher and when her children left the nest, she went to work in a Greenhouse. So as one gets older, the career they really want will come along. All depends on the person. A person will always have to be the Homemaker even after the children have left.

Answer 5

When the kids are in school, I would like to know what good being a stay-at-home mom is. I've read that many of these women don't actually spend much time at home — instead, they get their hair done, they go to yoga, and they play bridge with their friends. It may be an easy life, but it has no excitement.

Still, a woman can be a homemaker if she truly enjoys it and her husband makes enough money to support the household. However, it would be wise to find some way to earn money at home. Total financial dependence is never a good idea. The husband might die, or lose his job, or ask for a divorce out of the blue. Read Leslie Bennetts' "The Feminine Mistake" and you'll meet a lot of women who were left with nothing.

My mother stayed at home and gave private piano lessons before my brother and I were both in school. After that, she got her education degree and become an elementary-school music teacher. It made me proud of her.

I would personally feel like I'd wasted my life if I turned out to be anything other than a single, childless career woman.

Answer 6

A woman who has been a lifetime homemaker has not wasted her life. She made a choice to give love and care to her family. This is a very honorable way to spend your life. It does not mean you are less worthy than a woman who becomes the CEO of a major corporation. We all make different choices. Think of the children of that homemaker. They probably feel very secure with themselves and grew up knowing that they were loved. I'm not saying that a working mother cannot give the same love, it's just that the homemaker chose to give all of her time to her family. A woman who chooses to be a homemaker has nothing to feel guilty of nor does she have to feel like she's wasted her time. It's her life and she has the right to choose how to live it.

Answer 7

Once the kids are grown, I think it becomes less important to be a homemaker. However if her time is filled with volunteering and community projects then I think she would still have a fulfilling life. After all, it would be similar during the day to when her children were in school, unless she home schooled them.

Answer 8

Why can't you have a career after the kids are grown? I did. Once my children were away at college and I was bored, I went back to school, and started a new and fulfilling career. What can you do all day if you are used to taking care of your children? My experience is not that much different from many women I know. I loved being a stay at home Mom, but let's face it, there is life after kids. I now have grandchildren and see them every week-end. My daughter is a teacher and went back to teaching when her youngest was three. It was not because she needed the money, but because she enjoys teaching and having a life outside her home. Her salary goes into the children's college fund so it's a win win all around.

Answer 9

Although many in our society disagree, the choice to be a full time homemaker is one of the most difficult jobs that a woman can possess.

Though a woman may not have children in the home, she is still responsible for the efficient operation and peace of her home. When the home is well organized, clean and a cheerful place to be, it benefits the other members of the household regardless of their age.

Being a homemaker is not a waste of a woman's life. It is a choice that many women make to support the needs of the family members in her life. It also allows many women the freedom to volunteer with organizations and causes that need their time and talents.

Answer 10

No, being a homemaker and a mom is the most important job in the world! She has definitely not wasted her life. I think it's much more likely that a woman wastes her life on a career! And lives to regret it...