i love this guy and he feels the same way. we were talking about having sex and i want to but im scared. becasuse im very self concious about my body. I need help from people that can give me some advice on how to relax to do it. Im ready, but im just self concious about my body and im embarrase to show my body in front of him. i need advice on how to calm down and help me.!!
2007-05-07 09:22:50 · 10 answers · asked by &~TOAST~& 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and what is wrong with your body??? :D
2007-05-07 09:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Believe me, that's entirely normal! Guys are, too. The first big question is, are you old enough to know what you're doing? If you're an adult, then it's your call. The second big question is, do you feel that your guy will react badly to your body? Speaking as a guy, I have to say that this is not very likely. Any woman who wanted to have sex with me, particularly when I was young, was automatically pretty irresistable. I don't figure I was all that unusual, either. The third point is that you should not be too confident about your self-assesments. For some bizarre reason, pretty much all the women I know see only their flaws, real or imaginary, when they look in the mirror. Trust me - us guys don't really notice any of that. Guys tend to focus on one particular area of your body and not pay much attention to anywhere else (and it varies from guy to guy what they look at the most). Smile and be happy to see him, enjoy the cuddling and smooching, and concentrate on making him feel good, and you'll soon be too busy and distracted to worry about your body...
2007-05-07 09:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by John R 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are scared, then you are not ready for sex. Simple as that.
I know you are self-concious about your body, but you first said that you are scared, and that means that you are not ready.
You just answered you own question, honey, you have to relax to do it, just relax, but you first said that you are scared, so I still do not think you are ready, if you are scared, then it is going to hurt, and it will not be special for you at all.
You sound so nervous from your question and the exclamation marks tells me that you are very scared and very nervous, just calm down and tell him that you would like him to wait, if he respects you than he will wait, but if he gives you a hard time about it, then you saved yourself by not doing it!!!!
2007-05-07 09:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you just aren't ready yet.
If you were, and he got you all hot, you wouldn't be having such silly worries.
If you turn him on, what's there to be self-conscious about?
Believe me, if you're turned on, you won't worry about it. By the time you get to removing each other's clothes, your attention will be on what you're doing, not whatever it is you don't like about your body.
I do not by any means have the ideal body, but I've never had a guy complain. They like sex, and therefore they like women's bodies.
2007-05-07 14:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna have to go with Debbie F on this one 100%
You are obviously not ready, when the time is right the way your body looks to you is the last thing on your mind.
2007-05-07 09:32:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U R not Ready. part of being ready includes feeling completely comfortable with the other person. Dont rush yourself or else you'll have regret later on.....
2007-05-07 09:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he don't say anything about yourbody don't feel like that. Just ask him how he feels about your body. Maybe he might not be the one to have sex with. I think yiu should just thnk it over. Don't make no mistake be wise in thinking.
2007-05-07 09:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel that way, then dont do it. if you felt that he really loved you then you would not have a problem with your body or showing it around him. sounds like to me that you are not ready. this is something that you can only give to one person, dont waste it.
2007-05-07 09:26:52 · answer #8 · answered by buzyb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I knew your age I could answer in a different way. This is my opinion when you are truly ready you will know and you won't be ashamed or embarassed. Maybe he isn't the one for you.
2007-05-07 09:28:58 · answer #9 · answered by debbie f 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I HAD TO GET COMFORTABLE WITH MY BODY TOO LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND PUT IT ON HIM U ARE YOUR OWN WOMEN
2007-05-07 09:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by Irreplacable 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋