Ok my ex best friend is trying to be friends with me. I mean we're cool and everything but she wants us to be like we used to be. I don't really trust her that much anymore and i dont know what to say to her.
2007-05-07 09:04:40 · 16 answers · asked by (M)Azing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just try to avoid her... when she talks to u just be short with her and maybe shell get the point
2007-05-07 09:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by auntjenny03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't avoid her, just be up front and honest with her. Tell her that after all that has happened, you have a hard time trusting her and it will take a lot of time to rebuild what you once had and it may never be the same again. If she's truly a friend, she should understand and not pressure you for more than you are willing to give her.
2007-05-07 16:14:58 · answer #2 · answered by margiems78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow with her and allow her the opportunity to prove that she can be a friend. I wouldn't allow her to be a close friend anymore if she betrayed you but you can be a distant friend to her.
Explain to her that the freindship that you once shared can never be like it was. If she can accept the freindship that you have to offer, fine. If not, then you're better off without being a freind to her.
2007-05-07 16:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im having that problem right now, as well. do you want things to be like they used to be? if so, then tell her that she needs to make you trust her again. if she wants to be friends again, that is what she will do. if you dont really want things to go back to how they were, then tell her that right now you arent comfortable with getting close to her again and that you would appreciate it if she would respect that. dont come off as holding a grudge, just make sure she understnds what you mean.
good luck!
2007-05-07 16:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by .life.love&happiness. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh.... why is she your Ex-best-friend again?
If your Cool... continue to be nice.
You don't have to hang out with her.. just remember some day she might be the only one there for you!
Good luck your a hottie I'd want to be your friend too!
2007-05-07 16:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she not your best friend anymore? I have friends like that, she had sex with my bf when I was sick in the hospital and then tryed to be my friend after I found out. So we started be friends again and she did it again to me. If they hurt you once and you let them come back they will do it again and again as long as you let them keep coming back!
2007-05-07 16:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by vinessasmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her trust is earned, not freely given. You will give her the opportunity to re-earn the trust.
2007-05-07 16:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out, and show while your with her that it's not the same anymore. Like , be difficult on purpose...She'll get the picture.
2007-05-07 16:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by PROMISE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go up to her face to face and tell her how it is say betrayed my trust and u havent earned a lick of it back so please just give me sum space b/c u blew it. say we cool or wuteva but that dont mean ur my friend
2007-05-07 16:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by qutie2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her no - you don't really trust her that much anymore!
2007-05-07 16:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be friendly. it's good that she's making a peace-offering, but if you still don't want to be buddy-buddy with her again, don't lead her on and eventually your body language and attitude towards her will help her realize that it won't be the same ever again.
good luck! :-)
2007-05-08 17:31:07 · answer #11 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋