HELP
2007-05-07 09:01:32 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been married 10 years this is new to ,me!
2007-05-07 09:15:25 · update #1
Say O.K. then.
2007-05-07 09:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by breedgemh_101 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
You don't need or deserve this. Nobody needs or deserves this. You can end this today. Go and stay with a friend or your mum, make a statement at the police station (leave it until the morning), and get him out of your life once and for all.
Its likely you wern't his first victim and unless you call the police you won't be his last either. Put him behind bars where he deserves to be. That way he can't hurt anymore innocent women.
Please listen to what were saying, we want the best for you and we don't want him to get away with this. You NEED to seek help.
Take Care. Best Wishes.
2007-05-07 09:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sahra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say he is going (future tense) to beat you. How do you know unless this has been going on already? So why do YOU tolerate it?!
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
You have to "help" yourself; no one can do it for you. Be an adult and take responsibility for your choices. Either stay or go. But know that you are making a choice.
And if there are children involved, know also that as the other responsible adult in the family, you can be held legally liable for any abuse towards them. It is your responsibility to ensure their safety.
2007-05-07 09:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please call the police right away. It's a hard step to take but it's a step that you have to make. Call a friend or a family member. There are shelters that can help also. No one should have to live in fear of anything. Take it from someone who has been in your shoes and feeling what you are. You need the self respect to be able to stand up and tell yourself that you deserve better than the way you are living.
2007-05-07 09:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive read the answers you've had so far but what your probably thinking now is if only it were that easy, its not is it? But you do have to get out of this relationship before you get seriously hurt. I do agree with fat tart though try & avoid his fists & make plans to get away when hes not around, get family or friends to help you & do report his abuse to the police as son as you can. Hope you find the strength to do what needs done.
2007-05-07 09:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's all that SOME men know.
No man WANTS to beat his woman. I compare it to whipping a child. I would NEVER hit my woman or child because I know other ways to chasten. I have witnessed domestic violence my entire life and I have concluded that all were the results/illusion of the male's manhood being challenged. That's no excuse, it is a step to UNDERSTANDING. LEARN YOUR MAN. KNOW YOUR MAN.
You won't say "OK!"?
Probably talking about sex.
Woman must understand that denying your man/husband ANYTHING is a form of matriarchy(the woman is head of the household).
The greatest joy for a woman is pleasing her man.
Try submitting 100% to your man.
Try giving 100% to your man.
Play YOUR role, stay in YOUR place, respect YOUR man or however you want to phrase it and IF HE IS A MAN you BOTH will be overflowing with peace and happiness TOGETHER.
It is WONDERFUL!!!
2007-05-07 10:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by DIVINE RIOT 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course you should be gone before he comes home and never go back. I can not help but wonder why you are still there. The best advice is to ask you if this was your daughter what would you tell her to do ? Only you can make this stop.
2007-05-07 09:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Cinna 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry for you. Get some strength together, pack some bits and get the hell out. I know its not as easy as that - maybe you havent got friends or family near by. Maybe you havent got transport............but you know.........theres always people there to help you get out of this rut, even if it means a few months of discomfort living where you dont want to. You only live once and you deserve better. Get out and start again. Where are you and can I help?
2007-05-07 09:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by shirley p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK to what? That's really upsetting. You know the answer- get out of there. Now. Whatever he says no-one deserves to be treated like that. Good luck and look after yourself.
2007-05-07 09:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he beats u??!! and ur still with him because?? i've been a punch bag for a guy before, didnt ever think i'd get away... was always too scared to answer back or try to leave him! but i found the courage.. and i've never looked back! u can do it! dont take s**t from no-one, lifes too short!
2007-05-07 09:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by foz 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
jackie stop wasting time online and go to you front door and bail its an easy thing to do then call the 50 if he has smacked you around, if not file for a injuction on his ***, but my best advice is to leave now
good luck
2007-05-07 09:09:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋