I don't know if it is just me the person physically,emotionally and or mentally.I dont know if its just that I am more mature for my age than most.I dont know if its just maybe because I havent ran into people around my age that are on my level and have similar interests.
But for some reason,I seem to have a really hard time interacting with my age group and those younger than me.I dont understand why.Either,I get into arguments,they seem to not want to be too associated with me or I otherwise get turned off and irritated and distance myself from them.
I try to stay optimistic that one day I will be able get along with more of my peers and just somehow blend in.But here are the facts,and I will let you take from this what you like.I am 21 years old,150 lb.s,African American male currently living in Urbana,IL.All my life I have only had 3 serious best freinds,all the rest were just aquantainces,no girlfreind,and I seem to get constant ridicule from everyone including my parents.
2007-05-07 08:24:12 · 7 answers · asked by Chris K 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The solution to this problem is to achieve balance in one's life. To limit one's life to one area of knowledge can be a serious drawback to true success. A balanced life is one that is diversified, one that involves a number of wholesome and worthwhile experiences. While it may be good to be outstanding in one area of expertise, one may find himself completely out of touch with everything else and can easily lack any social graces. A man is not an island to himself. Success in life includes balanced socializing.
2007-05-07 09:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Okay or not Okay? Who can say? Urbana IL, I don't know the racial and ethnic makeup of the place and that may be relevant to your situation if you're always in the minority. If your parents are also ridiculing you, do a reality check. Are they really doing so, or are you percieving it that way? Either way, a trip to a local counseling center, at the university or a local clinic, might be in order. Isolation can often make us / me start to skew the way I interpret people sometimes. On the bright side, there are many professionals who relate to children better than adults, or to senior citizens rather than their own age group. Try to diversify, but talk to someone and find a way to let us know how things went. Good wishes.
2007-05-07 13:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by goodpoet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you're pretty solemn and don't fool around much, so if your peers do any childish acts, you feel that they all are just..well..immature and aren't acting their age, but more of their shoe size. Follow?
And also, you probably do understand what they do, and why. Some people don't like serious people who can't take jokes, and I'm not sure the reason for that. Considering you're 21, most people around your age range are college kids who probaby like to have a good time now they're young adults, but trust me, there are some people like you who likes to tone it down as well.
2007-05-07 08:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Banana Hero [sic] 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be an introvert. Introverts tend to make just a few close friends, but they are deeper friendships. You don't need to date a lot, because you only need to end up with one woman. The best places to meet are always connected to what you like to do so you can start off with shared experiences.
My husband is an extreme introvert, so I had to make sure he understood that he could trust me and things worked out.
2007-05-07 08:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by royal e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.. Regardless of what nathaniel36753 says, there is NOTHING wrong with you. You're just different, and that's not a bad thing. I'd guess that at 21, it's pretty tough to find mature friends/peers/relationships, etc.
I'm really not sure what kind of advice to give you.. find something you're interested in if you haven't already, join a club, meet new people, blahblahblah.
2007-05-07 08:39:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there are people you can bond with. Even if they aren't your age. Maybe you should hang out with some older people or anyone that seems to have you same interests. Then after awhile maybe they will catch up to you. Who says your friends have to be your age?
2007-05-07 08:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by Stevenie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because there is something wrong with you. Flat out. You may think that its okay but its not. Telling yourself that it will be okay cuz ur gonna get a good job will not help. U need to adapt in oreder to survive, ANYWHERE!!! Sorry, but u need 2 take a serious look at urself, and find what is defective about your personality
2007-05-07 08:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by nathaniel36753 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋