How do I get my wife to want to have more sex?

Answer 1

Do little things for her, and foreplay starts long before the act.

Answer 2

You can start by helping around the house more often, cook, clean , run errands, etc... shower, shave, dress nicer than usual and maybe use a little bit of cologne, if she likes that but don't take a bath in the stuff!! Compliment her on something, anything, her hair, her figure, the way she handles the kids, her job performance, etc... hug and kiss her for no reason on days you don't want to have sex, with no strings attached, then take her out to dinner, or better yet make her dinner and then do the dishes, treat her like you would want to be treated and she should reciprocate in knd!

Answer 3

Whatever you do, do not put it in the front of your head or even a hint of it in her head that you want her too have more sex. Making her think you want more sex or is doing anything just for the purpose of sex will have the opposite of your desired affect.

Instead, do what you did before you got married. Try to woo her and make her feel young, excited, romanced, wanted, important, sexy. Try to make her think she is the luckiest woman in the world to have a husband like you. Wives don't want sex unless they are feeling in tuned to you.

Only if the sex life is getting boring for her and that is why, then spice things up with some perversion like toys or anything you and your wife can agree on.

That is my suggestion unless there is anything you left out such as medical, physical, mental, or emotional problems.

Answer 4

Define 'more'. If you're having sex a fair bit allready, you probably have some ideas what things she likes and put her in the mood.

SO my guess is you're barely having sex at all, and most of the suggestions given will backfire brutally. If she is avoiding sex with you, anything you do that is romantic or complementary she will just hear 'he wants sex'. Once she has that in her head, there is no easy way out.

If that's where you are, you need to sit down with her and ask her what she suggests doing to resolve the situation. Be prepared to work, but expect her to work at it too. If she doesn't care at all about your needs, your marriage may be over.

Answer 5

There's probably nothing you can do but hang in there, be loving, wait and be patient. In the long run, you'll be glad you did.

It may take years before she looks at sex in the way that you do. Could be it takes that long before she's past the physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion that women feel (working, raising families and dealing with personal issues)--and for some its after the onset of menopause. At that point, your sex drive may decrease as hers increases. But, you say "more sex" so all is not lost.

I know its difficult to accept and hear this. Maybe that's why its good to be friends and lovers.

Answer 6

Find out through communication if something is wrong in your sex life now. Is she having orgasms when you do have sex? Does she have enough foreplay? Are you focusing on her needs more than your own? Is she comfortable about her appearance?

If all of these answers are no, communication is key, but that may not solve all the problems.

Do you have kids? That's a big sex turn off for most moms.

As for a magic pill to turn her into a sexual maniac, I'm afraid you won't find one.

Answer 7

Play hard to get. Make her think she's seducing you. Be suggestive enough to spark conversation or an interest but then let her take over. Sometimes the feeling of power or control of a situation goes a long long way. And if that fails a nice massage should work. Get her so relaxed that she won't care if she's having sex.

Answer 8

Sheesh! Ask her. Ask her what you need to do to make her want to have more sex! She's the only one who can tell u everything. The rest of us will guess and give u advice on what worked for us or the people we know. But the women we will be talking about are different. None is your wife.

So above all, ask her. Nicely. Don't threaten to leave her (she may want that and u won't be ready for it.) Then, be wise. Watch yourself. Have u changed in any way that's enuff for her to be like, "yeah, okay"? Is it her job... The answer is within your marriage, buddy Look closely there. It will tell u more.:)

Answer 9

How do you treat her outside of the bedroom? If you don't do things to fulfill her emotional needs you usually aren't going to have a wife who is interested in sex. Help with the kids, help with the housework, touch her throughout the day, tell her the smartest thing you ever did was marry her, bring her her favorite candy bar, call her from work just to tell her you love her. Appreciate her, respect her, love her.

Answer 10

Unless she is Greek and in her 30's this may be a problem.

I would first recommend that you help around the house and with the kids so that she has more energy.

Build up her confidence.

She may be uncomfortable with herself if she knows that you watch too much porn.

The next time you have sex with her...Make it ALL about her. Foreplay and such. Maybe even to the point that you JUST satisfy her. Maybe it will make her want to repeat and reciprocate.

Plan a fancy/romantic dinner. Give her plenty of heads up so she can shave (or wax), do her nails, wear a pretty outfit. Flirt with her at dinner. Make her feel special. At times, we need to feel sexy to get sexy.

Or even better. COMMUNICATE. Ask her what you can do do to satisfy her needs.

Answer 11

Start by helping her out daily around the house, if you have children help with them too. Tell her how much you love her, give complements. To get her in the mood cuddle her, kiss her, give her a back rub. You would be suprised at how turned on a woman can get by these little things!! This is stuff that you have to daily not just when you want sex. Also ask her what she likes in sex. Please her first & I promise you will enjoy it more too! She will be wanting more sex in no time!!