in love with a married man?

Question

hes married has kids and is a coworker i know bad combination. I also know that I can never be with him and nothing has happened between us but I have fallen for him something awful. any suggestions on how to fix this?

Answer 1

meet different guys go out see other people . go club hopping even going to the mall works no matter how old you r

Answer 2

That's good that you know you can never be with this man since you know that why are you asking how to fix it? Just leave the man alone period that is how you can get over him. You can't be selfish and put your wants before other peoples feelings. I mean come on if you were the wife and some other chick was ''in love'' with your man im sure you would be ready to kick some --- not only that but im sure you would be hurt. And their kids think about them. Their parents are happy together and you want to just come charging in and wreck a happy home and a marriage? You need to leave it alone or this situation is not going to get any better you will just make it worse. Is it that hard to find a man that doesn't have a wife?

Answer 3

ok - lets lay out the facts here:

1. he is married - meaning he has a wife and is in a committed relationship and has an obligation to his partner to be faithful

2. he has kids - meaning why would you want to be with a man who has a wife and kids? those kids need their father - dont be a home wrecker - there are many single men you have yet to meet but this man is not on the market

3. he is your co- worker - meaning you work together and this type of behaviour is the work place is damaging to your productivity and also your emotional reactions

4. you can never be with him - meaning you need to accept that right away and find someone who is available

5. nothing has ever happened between you two - meaning and am guessing here you are talking about sex so there is nothing to think about because you have no real form of connection that links you to this man except your imagination of ideas that are straying you from reality

6. you have not fallen for him - you have been in denial, wake up and move on please.

Answer 4

Yes, you need to remove yourself from that situation. I would be looking for another job, and steer clear from him... it's bad news to get involved with a married man, an awful sin. And it doesn't speak highly of anyone that is seeking companionship other than friendship with a married person. There are so many single men out there. The fact that's he is in a relationship with someone else always makes them more attractive, but not worth it.. move on~ and save yourself a lot of problems.

Answer 5

The issue here isn't about who's bad and who's not. The fact that you are posing this question on Yahoo shows you are very affected by it too and the last thing you need is to have people rubbing in your face and calling you a home wrecker.

You need to re-examine your own life at this point in time. Sometimes, having a crush on an unconventional choice of men is a symptom of meeting too few people. Perhaps, engaging in a new hobby (e.g dancing, cooking....) helps you meet new people. Even if you don't meet many people in these activities, they keep you mentally distracted at least. Good luck!

Answer 6

Oh, I feel for you. I'm glad you know nothing can happen, but we can't help who we love....can we? I would think about changing jobs. If you stay and something does happen, nothing good can from it. If you must stay at this job, then maybe make a list of all the things you DON'T like about him and all the reasons it would never work. Instead of focusing on his positives, focus on his negatives. Everyone has them. I'm guessing if you spend enough time really thinking about it, you will see many reasons why it would never work anyway......even if he wasn't married. You may have a "forbidden fruit" thing going on. That does happen, you know. Also, I would stay away from telling him if possible. Nothing good can from that either. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

U cant change how u feel about some one, but u can control what u do with those feelings. U no u cant be with him so if u really feel that u are in love with him I guess just be grateful with the time that u do get to spend with him in the WORKPLACE but dont past the coworker relationship.

Answer 8

You seem to be a lonely individual with not much going on in your life, or not much of a personal life of your own. Get yourself busy in some way serving and helping others. There is more baggage with getting involved with a married man than you could imagine. You will not be happier than you are right now. If you are going to fall for any man, fall for a man who you will not have to degrade yourself for or become a thief for.

Answer 9

The only way to get him out of your head is to get him out of sight. Whenever you catch yourself thinking about him, think of something else. Distract yourself with friends, hobbies and looking at other guys. No matter what DO NOT let this go any further. There will be only heartache for everyone involved. If its possible get another job. Good Luck!

Answer 10

You have a crush. As long as you don't do ANYTHING with him then the feelings will subside eventually. But if you so much as kiss him, you're stuck. Maybe you should try to meet someone else. Then you'll forget all about your coworker. Good Luck

Answer 11

Switch jobs or departments or get a transfer. You need to find someone else.... it isn't worth breaking up a family. If you can't control your feelings or it is too hard for you to be around him each day.... make a change and leave the situation. He's married with kids and VERY UNAVAILABLE! Find someone who is and can give you his full attention :-)