hmm after realizing that I am ready to move on, I made a list of things I want form the next guy - but do u think I am going overboard:
I said, I want someone who is a good kisser, someone I can connect with, who can buy me flowers and take me out, surprise me and do the little things that make me feel special, and someone who when faced with 2 options on who to believe - will believe me over the next person... he should like to have fun, yet give me my own space...
Is this list too much, are my requirements too high??
2007-05-07 07:16:19 · 41 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
can hold a drink, and someone who is clean : does not do any drugs
2007-05-07 07:17:59 · update #1
bobby, by that 'can hold a drink' I mean that he should be bale to know his drinking limit at lest when he is with me
2007-05-07 08:01:42 · update #2
I think what your asking for is too be treated with respect. Be treated like a lady. Someone who values you for who you are and connecting with them on a level that no one else can. Some people take advantage of their relationships. It sounds like you were unfortunatley treated badly... No your requirements are not high... I believe that when you are in a relationship with the one you love you put them first and show them everyday what they mean to you and how lucky to have you in their life.
2007-05-07 07:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by GA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I start out suggesting that a women qualify a man on weather he would make a good father.
Your list is silly and self centered, (surpirize me with flowers and little things that make me feel special). How about a man that when the chips are done gets two jobs to make sure you and the kids have bread on the table.
Look at this question:
Am I looking for too much, I want a MAN that has the fortitude to get two jobs when things get tough to support his family. I'm willing to OFFER????
Is that too much
2007-05-07 07:38:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not asking too much. However, my suggestion is to separate your list. Make a list of needs and make a list of wants. Needs, obviously, are the things that you have to have or there will be no relationship. Wants are the things that you would like to have but it will not make or break the relationship. Do not compromise on the needs. Learn the difference between wants and needs. Eventually the right person will come your way.
2007-05-07 07:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by soulsearcherofthetruth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think youre asking too much, heck youre not really asking for anything. Most of the things you require seem like they should be standard. I think you should up the antey and look for things like a man who is honest, trust worthy, God fearing, good job history, has goals. You dont need someone to make you feel special or happy. That has to be established before hand.
2007-05-07 07:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well guys like their space too, I dont know about the who will buy you flowers and take you out part. It makes it sound as if you want a guy to wine and dine you. I personally think if a guy takes you out, then you should take him out sometimes too and the same thing with the suprising you sometimes you should do that for him as well. I think its possible to find a guy like that. Also as for the believing you over someone else a guy has to totally trust you 100% to do that and it takes time to build trust.
2007-05-07 07:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a list which includes some real shallow requirements - I am wondering why you're looking for someone who is going to do all these things to make you "feel special". How about someone you can share with, someone you can give to, someone with common goals? Think about what you are putting into your relationships. It's a two-way street. Good luck.
2007-05-07 07:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you if that is too much or not. If that is the way your heart feels, then who is anyone to question your wants and needs in a man. We all have a list. And we won't be happy other wise, that is part of our human nature. So don't feel bad that you have requirements. Everyone does.
2007-05-07 07:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Glamorous Unicorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your list is fine but you should use it more as a guideline and not a checklist. No man will be able to embody every quality that you want. That guy doesn't exist. So, just make sure that he is a good person that genuinely cares about you and your feelings. And you should be ok. As far as the romantic qualities....good luck. Men generally are romantic in the beginning and then they stop. Not sure why.
2007-05-07 07:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by Shelly E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it wrong for you to want all that? No.
Is it impossible? No.
Is it something you're going to find all in one day? Absolutely not.
I think you need to start with one thing, and work from there. Go out looking for a guy in a place where you'll find someone who is interested in something YOU are interested in. Like the outdoors? Find a Hiking Group to go out with. That sort of thing. Then maybe you'll meet a nice guy. Then maybe you'll go on a date. Then maybe you'll find out he's a good kisser. Then maybe you'll be happy when he decides to bring you flowers. Dating is a slow, long process, and it has to be if things are going to work out right. Rushing things is a good way to ruin a good thing fast.
2007-05-07 07:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by marienne94 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good kisser - so he should be experienced with women
can connect with - so he should be experienced with connecting to women
buy you flower - money
take you out - money
surprise me - money
do things to make me feel special - money
believe what I say - trust? or gullible?
I prefer someone who will do what they think is right even if it goes against me. Someone I can respect. Someone I can talk endlessly to and not have to listen to what they have eaten or not eaten or what they want to wear. I want someone who knows the gift of conversation.
2007-05-07 07:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋