They're not too much to ask for as long as you're similar yourself.
If you're not into kissing, and turn boyfriends away when they want a kiss because someone will see (not tonsil hockey - a kiss), then you likely won't find a good kisser.
If you don't listen and like to dominate conversations, you will not connect with anyone, because it requires two way communication - give and take.
If you don't ever want to go out where he wants to go, he'll stop asking, and expect you to take control. Be flexible.
If you never surprise him, if you never work to make him feel special, you're not going to engender that kind of action in him.
If you aren't trustworthy, if you don't show trust in him, or if you don't work to show that you can be trusted, he will not trust you.
The last one is tricky - if you expect him to be there when you want him to be, and to go away when you have something better to do, then you're not gonig to keep anyone worth keeping. You need to PLAN. If you want to hang with your girls on Friday night, tell him in advance. Don't make it seem like you're blowing him off. If you respect him, he'll respect you. If you take advantage of him, or ask him to blow off his friends, he'll think you're a user.
Relationships are work. Both people have to work for it to be a success. What you're asking for is basic, and shouldn't be difficult to find, but you have to be willing to be the same person you're looking for.
Good luck! I found mine, you can find yours, too!
2007-05-07 07:28:18
·
answer #1
·
answered by Becka Gal 5
·
1⤊
1⤋
Kind of, yeah. Sounds like you want all the glory, but no guts! Not to be mean or anything. The heart wants what the heart wants, and even though you have decided what your ideal partner should have, it's often no where near what you end up with. And sometimes, that's a good thing! Every person possesses different qualities, you'll be surprised at how some things make you smile. Don't let a good one go because your bar is too high.
2007-05-07 07:25:38
·
answer #2
·
answered by darkeyes_k 2
·
1⤊
0⤋
Sounds to me like you're looking for a gentleman. Not a thing wrong with that my Dear!
In every relationship compromises are to be made. You're "list" is off to a very good start. Remember, that means you need you'll be holding your end of the deal up as well, to be a Lady. If you give the kind of treatment you expect, then you deserve that treatment in return. Relationships take work, they just don't happen, but setting your goals high means you're up to the challenge.
2007-05-07 07:26:51
·
answer #3
·
answered by DebbK 4
·
1⤊
0⤋
I begin out suggesting that a females qualify a person on climate he could make a well father. Your record is foolish and self based, (surpirize me with vegetation and little matters that make me believe detailed). How approximately a person that after the chips are performed will get 2 jobs to be certain you and the youngsters have bread at the desk. Look at this question: Am I watching for an excessive amount of, I wish a MAN that has the fortitude to get 2 jobs whilst matters get rough to aid his loved ones. I'm inclined to OFFER???? Is that an excessive amount of
2016-09-05 11:18:58
·
answer #4
·
answered by axelrod 4
·
0⤊
0⤋
There is nothing wrong with having high standards. However, you should expect it to not be easy for someone to meet every one of them. It will take time, and effort, and persistence on your part to stand up for your standards and not cave in. In the mean time though there isn't anything wrong with going out with people and getting to know them, you may decide that some of the things you thought were important aren't so important if someone has other qualities that are even better than you thought you wanted.
2007-05-07 07:24:14
·
answer #5
·
answered by brattiness73 5
·
1⤊
0⤋
So what you're basically saying is....You want a guy that will let you be independant, who's sincere, who will support you emotionally, be your best friend, and be experienced in the art of foreplay. Nope, you're not asking for too much! But good luck finding him. Try looking for this guy on an online dating site or on myspace type sites. I found my perfect guy that way, maybe you can find yours that way too. He's out there somewhere don't give up till he's yours!!
2007-05-07 07:28:15
·
answer #6
·
answered by Lynn 3
·
0⤊
0⤋
It's good to have an idea of what you're looking for. However, you may find one person who embodies most of what your looking for and you might be willing to overlook some of these because of the other great qualities he may possess. You are indeed looking for a lot of things, however I believe the most important thing is some people feel they are "entitled" to these things. Realize that you are not entitled to anything but rather like everyone else have to work for it. A relationship is about compromise and finding the middle ground. You will not have all of the same needs, goals, or wants. Let me explain that came out negatively. For instance, perhaps you love going to movies and he hates to, he however loves to go to sporting events, it's about compromise doing both of them together, each others separately, etc. I'm trying to say that everyone has requirements, we aren't always going to meet those, but what's important to note is if he cares about meeting your needs, and you care about meeting his. It's a two-way streak if you're the type of person who would go out of your way to do something for him, you better believe he will be more likely to reciprocate going out of his way for you.
2007-05-07 07:25:22
·
answer #7
·
answered by jay k 6
·
1⤊
0⤋
Nope...I broke up with my BF and decided to move on and am very happy about my decision. I was flipping the radio staions and I heard the country song.
I ain't settlin'
For just getting by
I've had enough so-so
For the rest of my life
Tired of shooting too low
So raise the bar high
"Just enough," ain't enough this time
I ain't settlin' for anything less than everything
It's country but it's true...Good luck lady
2007-05-07 07:24:04
·
answer #8
·
answered by Luvatlanta 6
·
1⤊
0⤋
Everything seems very reasonable except the "believe me" thing. In my experience, people who need to be believed unconditionally are usually liars and/or manipulators. If you can't deal with your partner disagreeing with you on an issue or two, then you've got some maturing to do.
2007-05-07 07:23:12
·
answer #9
·
answered by Anonymous
·
0⤊
0⤋
They're not too high, but you also have to learn to see the potential in any guy. there's someone out there who meets those requirements, but your chances of finding him aren't that great. You have to see passed first impressions sometimes, because there are tons of guys out there who want to be exactly what you want. They just don't know how. Sometimes you have to help them out.
2007-05-07 07:25:20
·
answer #10
·
answered by Christi 2
·
1⤊
0⤋