we have talked to alot of people ...my ex has not called his daughter or even called me to verify if he will pick her up this summer,he just got married 3 days ago.and my children are not thrilled about it...he is suppose to get her in the summer but never has before for 6 years now,the police said they will not force her to go if she chooses not too.he was told to call by april 15th to get her in june he said he does not have too.in the mean time her doctor now has her on immunotherapy through a specialist...her dad has no docotor are anything set up for her to keep her therapy going,she has severe allergies to outside...the doctor here has a note for her daddy to let him know she is in this program and has to have 8 shots a month.i dont know what to do...but he has not even contacted us since january and the only time he called he was in debt over $18.000 and wanted to use our daughter for his income tax to get more back to pay off his debt which he could not do,i have custody of h
2007-05-07 07:13:53 · 13 answers · asked by TAM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At her age and she doesn't want to go and with him not being interested so much as calling like he should have, with the health problems I would call him and ask him what his intentions are. That way you know and can allow him to see what he wants to do about finding her a doctor while there. Again, I feel every father should be able to see their children, but they have to want too. He seems more worried about using her for tax purposes, I would most certainly make sure he realizes how serious your daughter illness is.
2007-05-07 07:24:00 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing your ex is selfish and she should not have to go see him at summer time. My daughter is 12 and she is really sensitive right now, being in middle school and all. She doesn't need an allergic reaction also. Besides January was months ago and how dare he ask for her info for taxes.
2007-05-07 14:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by anae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a deadbeat father and I have the same problem. My daughter wants nothing to do with her father and it sounds like it is in your daughters best interest not to go this summer. I know it gives you a much deserved break, but at the expense of your daughters health and well being. What is more important?
2007-05-07 14:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jaime S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Thats rough! To me he sounds like a real jerk! In my opinion I think you should sit him down and talk to him about it he must care for her, its his daughter. Actualy I went through the same thing with my father eccept I wasnt ill. Finaly what I decided to do was hunt him down (figure out where he is) and go talk to him. Me and my mother decided it would be best if first I talked to him so that he could see how I felt about all this. We found him and I sat down and let him know everything on my mind. You could tell that it hit him as a shock but it really got through to him. I remember that I was so pissed at him I didnt want to see him iether I just needed him to know what was on my mind. Of course your daughter is at an age where she should be allowed to make her own decisions, if she doesnt want to go she shouldnt have to. Maybe you should try to let her confront her father if she wants to. Good luck! :)
2007-05-07 14:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by llama4240 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she has allergys and you have already setup everything for her, and he hasn't don't let her go; for her Health and safety. Unless he can provide the medical attention she needs. If he was told to call by april and hasn't I would make other plans and just tell him he needs to let you know in advance about picking her up. Don't ever let him try to claim her. If he does you can notify IRS. Follow your instincts.
2007-05-07 14:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by cyran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...the only advice I can give is to contact an attorney. If she does not want to go then at her age the courts tend to listen. There is also the matter of her health. They can get an injunction and get a court date in place to clear this whole matter up.
2007-05-07 14:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't actually asked a question.
I don't really get the problem. It sounds as though she will simply stay with you.
Do you have reason to think he's going to want her this summer?
If he calls and seems to expect her, tell him she can't go for health reasons.
But, given his past behavior and current marriage, that doesn't seem likely.
2007-05-07 16:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look explaining to your child has to be the hardest part.
My child doesn't ever see his dad. I would never make him but I find it hard to make excuses for the asshole! My baby is 8 and has a million and one questions about his dad. If his father wanted to get him I would find it rather hard to let him go. Good luck on what ever decision you make but when it comes to the welfare of our children things are difficult!!
2007-05-07 14:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by ~Crystal~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CALL A LAWYER and get the custody order changed right away!!! The courts will force him to prove he can care for your daughter. They will probably also listen to your daughter if she says she doesn't want to go.
Good luck! :)
2007-05-07 14:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by searching_please 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I feel really bad for your daughter. You seem like a really good mother, but her father on the other hand..seems like such a jerk. If you want to know what I think, I think that you shouldnt let her go. Shes probably suffered through enough heartache of knowing he doesnt want her around.
2007-05-07 14:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋