Hi, my name is Kelsi and I am 14. My mom just had a baby, about a week ago and his name is Bradley Nathaniel Roberts. I have 3 other siblings, they're little ( and so cute!) Pixie ( who's 7), Braden ( who's 5) and Emma ( she's 3). They're having a really hard time with this. My mom is so happy with us and she loves us all so, so much. and she always spends time with us and feeds us and stuff. But now, she can't give us QUITE so much attention since Bradley came. I'm ok with that I just am doing everything I Can to help make it easier for my mom & dad. but Pixie, Braden and Emma are just so upset that mom can't spend as much time with us as she'd like. She still spends a lot of time with us and stuff but I don't know how to help them. What can I do?
2007-05-07 07:07:45 · 10 answers · asked by Mommy of Landon and Kaeyla 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Its just, all my sibblings aren't very happy and i really want them to be happy too like i am. since I love them so much
2007-05-07 07:16:15 · update #1
Kelsi, you sound like a wonderful daughter! 3, 5, and 7 year olds DO want a lot of attention, don't they? Is it possible that a relative could take them to the park, or to places that are safe for them? Just a little attention doesn't seem to fill what they are used to. I think that they will get used to Mama needing to care for this baby, and will understand why there is only so much time to do things, and they must wait until a 'family' time to get full on attention. You keep thinking happy thoughts, you sound so sweet!
2007-05-07 07:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by laurel g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kelsi:
Let me start by saying I think you are a very mature and sensitive 14 year old. Your concern for your sibling and your parents is fantastic. But remember, you are still the a 14 year old girl and you should have to worry about this.
I would talk to your mom and dad and have them sit down with the other three and explain how time consuming a new baby can be and that does not change their love for you or them in anyway.
I think it is up to your parents to help your siblings, because it is their attention they a craving, not yours, so I am not sure you can do anything to really help. Although your concern is so sweet!
Talk to your parents and let them know your view on the situation and ask them to help, that's what parents are there for. Everything will be ok eventually once things calm down with the baby.
Good Luck
2007-05-07 14:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by qpook 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should tell your parents how your siblings feel and then your mom could try harder (if that is possible since I'm sure she is already trying her hardest) to pay a little more attention to them. At least, she might be able to talk to them and explain to them why she is not able to spend as much time with them and try to get them to help out with little things with the baby too so you don't have to do so much also. You are very blessed to have such a nice family.
2007-05-07 14:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by CLICK 2 $AVE! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what you could do. well what i did is take the younger siblings out for the day to give them some attention. just so they know they are left out. or as above mentioned take the baby for a couple of hours and let mom have some alone time with the others
2007-05-07 14:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by ~♥~Lover~♥~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the baby off her hands for about an hour every day after school so she can have some time to play with the other kids. And maybe a couple of hours on saturday. As long as she's still around the house in case you need some help, there's nothing wrong with you looking after the baby some for her. You can do it. Congrats big sis.
2007-05-07 14:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by linda m 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its good that you are trying to help out. Try to talk with them and let them know that mom spent that kind of time with them when they were new, and you are there for them now too. Play with them, especially when you see they are being affected by her attention with the baby. Also talk to your mom about it, maybe you can watch the baby while mom spends time with them. You are good big sister.
2007-05-07 14:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to help out with the baby as much as you can and help with your other siblings . Good for you wanting to help out with your family :) the other siblings may not understand right now that mom and dad cant spend as much time as they want to but just try and help your mom out by getting the others ready and playing with them :)
2007-05-07 14:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by momof2girls and now a boy :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great daughter.Your mom really needs you right now.Try to help her pick up after the kids around the house and that takes of some of her time that she could be pending with your siblings.But don't worry about it to much your a kid yourself sweetie.
2007-05-07 14:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are lucky to have you for a sister. Any extra attention you can give them will help. Anytime you see them being good let them know how happy you are that they are growing up. The seven year old should be okay if you will give her some attention.
2007-05-07 14:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by TAT 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you help take care of the baby so she can plan some one on one time with them .
2007-05-07 14:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by SAHM and proud of it 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋