my girlfriend broke up with me out of no where - had the best relationship, everything was going great - talking bout marriage, kids, moving in together etc - out of no where she calls me and says i need time/ space to myself and we didnt talk for 2 weeks - i gave her space, but i wanted to let her know that i am there for her no matter what - i wrote her a letter saying that and we could get through this together - she responded acting nasty and mean, when all i wanted to do was tell her that i am there for her - then she acts mad at me like i am the one who did something wrong - now i know that u cant go from loving someone more than life to 12 hrs later not wanting to talk to them ! she is on medication (dont know what kind) and all of this happened 1 day after she went to her therapist - does this sound familiar to anyone or is this common? could she be pushing me away because she is scared that i am the one for her or did something just go off in her head?
2007-05-07 07:04:04 · 8 answers · asked by questions 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If she wants space, give her space. Maybe things were not going as well as you thought. Maybe she is bi-polar. If so this could be the way of things all the time. How long where you guys together? Was it long enough to really take a realistic ananlysis of how things were? I don't think that it is safe to assume that because someone acts in a manner that you do not understand that you can diagnose them with a mental illness. That is something best left to the professionals. All you can do is be responsible for your own reaction.
2007-05-07 07:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by Penny K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if is bi-polar, but if she says leave her alone, you want to follow her wishes right now. It sounds like she is going through a lot and she may just want to figure things out on her own. I don't want to say that she is cheating on you, but her actions actually point in that direction. My ex and I were extremely close and we spent every waking hour together except for work. We had been together for 3 years and were due to get married in 4 months. I started traveling with work and I was away more and more. All of a sudden he stopped returning my calls when I was away and he wouldn't answer the phone. I was dumbfounded. When I got back in town he treated me like I was just in the way and was really angry and mean to me. I later found out that he was seeing someone else and this was his way of pushing me away so he could have time with her. I am glad that I found out and was able to move on, because just imagine if this would of happened after we got married.
Just give her space and see if she comes around. Don't start blaming yourself, the only thing that you can really do to help the situation is to back off for the time being..I know it is really hard, but this will help her clear her head.
good luck, keep us posted and sorry this has happened to you, I know how bad it hurts!
2007-05-07 07:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Leslie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. I would say it definitely had something to do with her therapy session. It could be something they touched on that upset her or made her afraid of the future. My Mom and my Brother are both bipolar. It is hard to tell with that illness because they can change so fast especially if they go off their meds or until they found the right meds for them. Bipolar people will change quickly. Growing up I never knew which version of my Mom would meet me at the door after school. I wish I could help you more because I know how difficult it is to handle bipolar people. Just remember to try to separate their actions into the ones that are the illness and the ones that are really them. It comes with time. I wish you luck.
2007-05-07 08:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could in fact be bi-polar, or any of many other things. Let me give you a little clue however, think about moving on. If she gets better and then she is nice again ... this may well happen again ... and again and again. I hate to be cold but if you are looking for a happy life this is not going to be it.
2007-05-07 07:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by briguy662 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one of my friends is bi polar and she takes medication for it to keep under control. but in between the period when her treatments stop it gets out of hand. for example any simple word such as stupid will cause her whole world to come down and she will cry for hours and then get suddenly extremely angry. often bi polar people have really bad mood swings( and sudden ones too) really sensitive, and really emotional
2007-05-07 07:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all women have a little bit of Bipolar disorder in them.
2007-05-07 07:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by TapouT 78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is bi-polar but maybe she heard something from her therypist that got her pissed and wanted nothing to do with you.
2007-05-07 07:10:58 · answer #7 · answered by Brandon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not bipolar disorder-----you mentioned not talking for 2 weeks then she was angry when you contacted her------this means she is seeing someone else---she is playing the wild card----best defense is a strong offense.
2007-05-07 07:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋