I would love to meet up and have dinner with a male friend of mine, who I have always said is "just a friend." I can't decide if meeting him would a good idea or not...or whether or not to tell my husband that the "friend" and I are talking again...
2007-05-07 07:02:49 · 20 answers · asked by quilt-babe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there done that....first and most important is...tell you husband. Possibly invite your husband along. Your husband is "your best friend" and should be included. Honesty works best. If you don't tell him then it would be deceitful and sneaky....and if your husband finds out that you were not honest with him then there's goes the trust. Trust takes years to build up and only seconds to destroy. Remember that saying " Honesty is the policy"......
2007-05-07 07:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by 2 cents 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to question yourself as to whether or not to tell your husband, than you know it's not good. You are just looking for someone to tell you that it's okay, but you also need to think about how you would feel if it was your husband wondering whether or not to tell you he was wanting to meet up with an old "friend".
2007-05-07 14:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats your heart say,, or is this lust? Do you want out of the marriage.. Or your cake and eat it, too? If your emotional and passionate needs aren't being meet by your husband and you need this for self worth,, I say go for it, but be descreet,, and let the "friend" know what your full intentions are.. if you even know yourself.. If you want this to work so you can leave the husband,, good luck. And if your husband doesn't really give a damn how you feel.. then rock on.
2007-05-07 14:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by play 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think. How would your hubby feel about this? would he like the idea? if you want to catch up on whats been going on with your life, call friend on the phone. your husband doesnt deserve your doubts. he deserves to be included. tell him your old friend wants to catch up and he should come along to say, lunch, with you. honesty would work for you now! never be alone with this friend-people start crap-talking if you do this. could you handle that? could your family? don't leave your hubby out. maybe he can make a new friend.
2007-05-07 14:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by DinoBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't decide whether it's a good idea or not --- it's not. You are married, and unless you wish to take your husband with you for this dinner, it shouldn't happen.
2007-05-07 14:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love and respect your husband and his feelings then you will tell him. If you don't want to tell him then there's probably a little more to this "friend" than you want to admit. You definitely should not go behind your husband's back because if he finds out later, he's gonna be pissed.
2007-05-07 14:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Shelly E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your husband because you two are commited to each other and you should be able to tell each other everything... and maybe.. you shouldn't go along with meeting him because you have somebody and u dont need to lie and stuff
2007-05-07 14:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by *;May May;* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact your struggling with this situation implies there is more than friendship going on here. If not, tell your husband and your problem is resolved.
2007-05-07 14:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by Celebrate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to rock the boat and take a chance of getting thrown out of the water, meet with him.
2007-05-07 14:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if your husband were to do that? If you wouldn't want it done to you, don't do it to someone else. Be open about it if you want to meet this guy...full disclosure to husband, otherwise you're cheating.
What goes around, comes around...make sure you can handle what may come around to you.
2007-05-07 14:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋