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I ended a 20 year relationship to be with someone who professed such love for me. As soon as I ended this relationship they lost interest in about a month. We had been seeing each other, cause I thought my current long term relationship was over. She also was living with someone else. I just don't understand when we were sneaking around must of been more exciting for her, than to really settle down. I haven't spoken to her since, and was very fortuanate to get back into my past relationship. I will never stray again. I just wonder whats up with that kinda thinking, and yes I know it takes two to tangle. I just wonder if this person is mental, or potentially dangerous, like anti-social. And possibly enjoys breaking up marriages, cost people much unneeded expense, and heartache. I really learned my lesson, kinda like fatal attraction.

2007-05-07 06:44:16 · 15 answers · asked by thejanitorsez 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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she got what she wanted, she got u to leave the other woman, a real ego booster. once she had u it was no longer a thrill to her, so she moved on to her next victim. your truly fortunate your ex took u back and u have her. it was fun while sneaking around, betraying, but in real life there are always consequences, when she finally got u, the true her came out.

2007-05-07 06:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0 0

Could ask you the exact same question. After 20 years together, you dump it all for the thrill of an illicit affair..how could you be so mean and uncaring? If your marriage was stagnant, look in the mirror first before blaming others. Marriage is a two way street, both partners have to constantly work to keep things 'fresh.' The grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence, is it? Count your lucky stars and this time...put your efforts into saving your family. Lust is not love.

2007-05-07 06:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

some people are in it for the thrill of the chase---once they have their "kill", the fun is over and they go on to another unsuspecting victim... You are VERY fortunate that your first love was willing to take you BACK----most women would have told you to get LOST PERMANENTLY if you had cheated on them and then LEFT them for the one you cheated WITH....That original love must be some sort of SAINT and you best from now on realize EXACTLY what you have and NEVER look to someone else... Thing is, SOMETHING made you stray--there was something missing in the first relationship that triggered you to go find something else... you have to REALIZE what that might have been and then BOTH of you have to work VERY hard so that it doesn't happen again.... relationships are not just all fun and games... they are a LOT of work to keep them solid...compromise and consistency are two good keys PLUS, never EVER letting a day go by without letting each other know just how much you truly love each other.....and maybe you two ought to spice up your sex life too----NEVER let it get old or boring----try new things---experiment, watch "SEX WITH SUE" on cable on Sunday nights at 11PM (Oxygen network)---she is old but VERY outspoken and very knowledgeable on aspects of sex...plus she has GREAT ideas for spicing up your sexlife.... good luck and remember... the grass is NOT always greener on the other side...

2007-05-07 07:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0 0

i am having a hard time understanding why you think she might be anti-social or mental. you left your wife after cheating for 20 years to be with the mistress who then leaves you after one month. you then go back to wife because.... yes how can someone be so mean and uncaring? you have not learned your lesson yet. i hope your next question is how do i help to heal the damage my 20 year affair caused my wife, understanding how much pain affairs cause everyone. i wish your wife strength and wisdom.

2007-05-07 07:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0 0

Usually a person like that want what they can't have;because its a challenge. Once they get it they know that its not fun anymore; no challenge. It does happen more than people want to admit. There not anti-social or anything just trying to see if they can get what they want. (if they still have what it takes). Going back to your ex; you will have to earn their trust again. Since you learned your lesson, make a choice that makes you happy. Follow your heart.

2007-05-07 06:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by cyran 3 · 0 0

There are such people in the world, janitor, disruptive people who are gratified by the pain they cause to others. You must be more perceptive. I am glad you got back into your relationship. It was a lesson learned, that's all. Chalk it up to experience.

2007-05-07 06:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0 0

She just got a rush from sneaking around. Once she had you it was no longer a challenge. This is the price you pay! And now you know it wasn't worth it. You will be lucky to get another chance.

2007-05-07 06:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0 0

It's definitely "Karma"....Like most of us that have been involved with someone outside our marriage, we learn the hard, painful reality of what an affair is based on, lies and deceit. Glad to hear you've learned your lesson and do all that you can to nurture your current relationship. Good luck to you!

2007-05-07 07:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by Perplexed 2 · 0 0

it is the chase and plus she thought you probably would not end the relationship you were in. Glad you were able to work it out with your wife. Luck had to be on your side. So many women and men could care less who they hurt in the process of getting their thrills.

2007-05-07 06:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0 0

Takes all kinds to make the world go round. You learned a lesson, never forget it.

2007-05-07 06:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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