Cant make friends...?

Question

Im eleven years old, im pretty, smart, and nice, but im really shy. I recently moved to a new school where i say about 3 words a day and have no friends. How can i make friends? the best day-by-day, step-by-step answer gets best answer. thx

o ya and what r some good coversation starters?

Answer 1

Are there any after school groups of activities you can join? Do you like sports? You could join a team.

I'm sure it is hard going to a new school and not knowing anyone, but you'll make friends. It just takes time. Here are a few ideas:

- At lunch, try going up to a table and asking the girls if you can sit with them. Ask them what they like to do for fun or what they have in your lunch. You could even bring some extra treats or candy and ask them if they would like to have some.
- At recess, ask others if you can play. Maybe you can bring a ball or jumprope and ask others if they want to play a game with you. For example, if you bring a ball, ask others if they want to play four square or get a game of kickball going.
- Do you walk home from school? You could try inviting a friend or two to walk home with you or to come over after school. Ask them if they want to bake cookies with you or watch a movie.

And here are some conversation starters:
- "So, how long have you been going to this school?"
- "I'm new to the town/school. What are some fun things to do around here?"

Good luck! And remember, even if you don't have anything to say, put a smile on your face. A smile shows that you're friendly and are willing to make friends. :)

Answer 2

Step by step, day by day? Well, the only answer I've really got for you is to speak more than 3 words!! If you see a kid or group of kids that look friendly and like people you would want to hang out with then go up and talk to them! Say hello, compliment a cool shirt or find something to talk about like has that person seen whatever is the latest movie that you think is cool. Make eye contact, don't stare, just let people know that you are here! And smile, of course. Smiling lets people know that you're a friendly person and are open to making friends. I don't know, it's rough being a kid, I completely understand. Just keep being you and you will make friends, I know that sounds lame but it's true, have patience and good luck!!

Answer 3

The best advise i can give you is to be yourself and do what you like chances are someone will see you doing it and come to join you then you have a friend who you have something in common with and be patient i know its hard to do at 11 but that way you dont get in with the wrong crowd who may just be using you or get you in trouble i wish you goodluck to i know it can be scary making new friends when you are really shy i was so shy i used to not ever even post anything on the net and people cant even see me now thats shy but trust me if i outgrew it you will to and eventually you'll wonder why it was ever issue

Answer 4

Hey there. Im sure there is someone in your school that would want to be your friend. It could probably be the person sitting right next to you. Maybe someone has asked you about yourself or what school you transfered from-take that opportunity to speak a bit more...ask questions concerning what clubs to join-certain teachers-places to hang out. Pretty much just keep the conversation going. Another great way to make even more friends is to join a club or even sport (if youre into sports).

Answer 5

Are there any extracurricular activities that you can join? I know that this happens more often in middle school or high school. If there are activities that you can join either at school or after school like a soccer league, for instance, you could meet friends that way. You'd be part of a team and there would be some interaction required in order to get things done.

Look for activities to join that are of interest to you. You will meet other people that are interested in those activities and conversation will likely happen.

Things to talk about?

Favorite teachers, class assignments, favorite tv shows or bands, sports teams, whatever.

Answer 6

I can tell you I was exactly the same when I was that age. Did not talk at all. I'm 25 now, and I still struggle with it, but it got better over time. The only advice I can give you is to just MAKE yourself talk. Even if you think what you're saying is stupid or it makes you extremely uncomfortable. It only gets better if you try.

Answer 7

It could be as simple as speaking up. Raise your voice... when you arrive at school, just say out loud; morning!... don't expect a lot of response... but do it more often.. some people will respond.. some will not... that's normal... simple things will start you, and simple things are the best option.. when you go home you say to no one in particular: bye! and see what happens....

Answer 8

so i remember when i was 11 years old, and i moved to a new school too! i didnt have any friends either and i was shy too! i didn't know what to do since i was shy and all, but then i learned to be myself, dont waste any more time cuz it sucks being alone all the time!just be yourseld and show others that you know how to have fun and just be yourself gurlie!if you do this it will help you alot!listen i wish you '"good luck" and dont waste any more time!dont be shy!try practicing at home what you wanna say at school

Answer 9

same here. well not anymore. but this is what i did- i have ALWAYS been the one who gets attention, making faces at teachers behind their backs, smacking boiz butts, etc. so just do what i did. just attract attention. now I am in the popular circle of people and have loads of friends. so tomorow when the teacher walks by, take a notebook and pretend to smack the back of her head. (or his). people always like someone bold and funny. and then just start talking to people like sayin can i borrow a pen or something. ya know what im sayin? hey by the way- what school do ya go to? maybe we go to the same one? prolly not, just curious!

Answer 10

Watch your classmates and pick a good nice one, intoduce yourself to her "like when having free time intoduce yourself and ask her if you could join her" the good persons would be good to you, and even if they won't be your friends later they'd be a good contacts that you could spend some nice times with.
Good luck :)