The older(10yrs) of the two was born to me (meaning that i'm not the sperm doner but i'm the only father she's ever known). The youngest(4yrs) is our child togerther. I've not pushed the issue but with the child that's younger and not in regular school she's refusing to let her visit. I love both my kids and don't won't them involved in a ugly custody battle. What should I do?
2007-05-07 06:34:30 · 8 answers · asked by misterlvj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your a real man.yes custody wars are wrong.my suggestions are,write your ex no more calls or visits(for now)in the note tell her i really miss the kids and would want nothing more then to be in their life.i miss them and alot of time has already gone by(make sure you don't mention NOTHING else but the kids.write similar notes to her friends and family asking for help in speaking with her.remember keep it brief and without ("but i")("she said")("shes did") just the subject of the girls.wait on the results.mean while keep a journal or tape recorder letting the girls know how they are important etc.holidays or birthdays even just because gifts buy them,have a trusted person deliver them on your behalf.a person can change.its never to late.(even you and i can)wake up a new day and do something diff rent because new results are what we are looking for right. i promise you sometimes over night is all it takes for some maybe longer.but i have faith that pressure will make her soften up to the idea be patient. good luck!
2007-05-07 07:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by STALKER BLOCK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about working out a schedule so that they stay with you on the summer, or during the school year? She should let both kids see you. If not it just hurts the kids more. Try making an agreement that you both can follow so that your kids can see you too. If you have to go to court and get visiting rights without a custody battle. Every other holiday, summer, and weekends with you. ; once the little one starts school. As long as she is willing to agree.
2007-05-07 13:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by cyran 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The courts are still sexist in favor of the women when it comes to custody of the children. You may not want an ugly custody battle, but your wife seems to. She may be playing your good nature against you.
All I can say is do what you think is right and fair.
A lawyer is a legal tool and you still have control over how that tool is used.
2007-05-07 14:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she has already starting to be this way, it will end to you will have to fight to see them. You have as much right as she does to see your daughters. She sounds very controlling and want everything her way. You do need to talk with a lawyer about this because if you want any contact at all with them and since she isn't allowing you visits, only a lawyer will be able to help. It is such a silly excuse that because she isn't in school. Them being girls have or should have anything to do with visits. Fight for your rights, hopefully she will be the type of person who will not involve the kids into this.
2007-05-07 13:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try talking to her or emailing her before you get an attorney involved, Yes, custody battles can take years sometimes.. they are nerve wrecking. You are better off talking to mom and trying to make her see that you love these kids and want to be a part of their life.
2007-05-07 13:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney and let him/her know that the children have chosen and that you would like to get it over with. BUT, yes if you have never LEGALLY adopted the 10 yr old then I don't think you could take her. try to talk to your ex wife. let her know that you don't want to battle.
2007-05-07 13:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to an attorney...and unless u Legally adopted the older child...u are not her bio dad have have no say
2007-05-07 13:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I doesn't matter if they're girl if you want them with you go for it don't let your wife take them
2007-05-07 13:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by Airreal K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋