Raising families in gay households?

Question

Benefits...disadvantages.

Discuss...

Answer 1

The orientation of the parental unit makes absolutely no difference as long as they are providing love, support and stability for the children. Now one definite advantage would be that most same-sex couples teach more tolerance & acceptance due to the struggles we have to face.

Answer 2

Well, I suppose if the child is gay, then gay parents are more likely to understand about what that means and probably better able to provide a supportive atmosphere (although that's not to say that a straight couple couldn't also provide similar support). And I suppose it's also good for gay young people to have positive gay role models in their lives.

Another case would be that of, say, a girl who's been abused by a man. It may be preferable to put her with two female carers, where she may feel more secure and be able to get over what happened to her more quickly. Of course, the argument could also be made that putting her in a family with a non-abusive heterosexual man would help her to recognise that there can be positive heterosexual male figures in her life.

As for disadvantages of gay households: it's almost certainly a positive thing to have both male and female role models in one's life.

But still, I can't see how a loving gay household would be worse than a loving single-parent household; inasmuch as two people have more time to spend on children than just one, then a gay household would be the better choice of the two.

The bottom line is that provided children get enough attention (but aren't spoilt) and are brought up in a loving atmosphere, then gay households are no better or worse than straight ones. If role models are important, they can come from outside the home.

Answer 3

There are no benefits or disadvantages, it's exactly the same as raising families in hetero households, there's no difference at all.

People try too much to seperate us, but we're all the same.

A child raised in either one grows up the same. The only thing you could argue is that if they grow in a gay household they'll know gay is okay, where they may lack that reinforcement in a hetero household.

Otherwise, a family is a family, no matter what the sexual orientation.

Answer 4

My friend Dan and his partner Don (ugh) recently adopted a baby boy named Gus. I can tell you right now that that little boy is going to become a bright, compassionate, productive member of society (one of the fathers is a graphic designer, the other is the director of the Toledo Museum of Art) with a healthy tolerance of others who haven't come to the same conclusion he has about God, sexuality etc. I can also tell you that if he had stayed in the environment in which he was born, his only future would have been in crime. No "study" is ever going to be evidence enough to suggest to me that he would be better off with his natural mother and father just because they are heterosexual.

Also, regarding a certain misinformed proseytizing "traditionalist"'s rant about children being made fun of for having gay parents: Do you think that a person who has straight parents is never ridiculed? If that were true, you would have a point. But it's not, and you don't. People are made fun of for having poor parents, rich parents, black parents, white parents, old parents, young parents, and everything in between. Clearly you have a limited understanding of adolescent psychology.

Answer 5

Hi lam a gay man and have two boys 3&5 and me and my husband are raising them in are house hold we enjoy it. I was married to women for 4 years thought I was going to live a straight life just for others and the church that I went to told me I was going hell so I married a women and I did love her but came to believe I was really a gay man but I remarried a man 3 years ago and I get my boys every every other week end we are doing great and we really have no problems yet. People have not gave us a hard time .But they are still little and by them being little then maybe we won"t have to explain it much they will just grow up thinking its ok to have two dads.

Answer 6

How about raising families in ANY households.

Children need love, attention, guidance, etc. Anyone with those qualities can love and raise a family. Sexual orientation has nothing to do with it.

Answer 7

Since we have no past generations with whom to compare, I predict that in the future it will be proven that children raised in such "alternative lifestyles" will grow up with confused identities. Most of us still see this type of an arrangement as being abnormal and unnatural, and therefore, highly unsuitable for impressionable young children and teens. They will undoubtedly be subjected to endless taunts and ridicule by their peers, and will suffer as a result. If they are brainwashed by their gay "parents" into thinking that this is an acceptable way to live, they will be in for a rude awakening when they get out into the REAL world!

If gay people want to carry on as they do, we can't stop them. But to bring an innocent child into the equation is just plain WRONG!!! Why do you think it is illegal in most places? That is because decent society has to draw the line somewhere - and children do NOT belong exposed to perversion. There are too many TRADITIONAL homes wanting these kids, and that is where they belong. To stick them in homes where they will witness abnormal behavior and be told that this is "normal" is not only DELUSIONAL, it is a sad injustice!!!

A lot of people may disagree, but I think two men wanting to raise little boys generally brings us to one OBVIOUS conclusion: they want to "groom" them from infancy to emmulate their OWN gay lifestyle! Nothing like starting 'em young to get the desired result, eh guys?????!?!

Answer 8

I don't think it matters what the sexual orinetation of the parent is. As long as they are not abusing the child. Just because people are gay doesn't make them bad. And just because someone is straight doesn't make them good. I hate homophobes

Alisha

Answer 9

it's the same as any other household. except fun. i mean gay. :P

Answer 10

Its just not normal & its unhealthy. Dont try it for the kids sake.