my husband wants to watch pornos and naked women cos he says all men do it, he says he loves me but if he wonts to do that he cant love me or think very much of me,im pregnant with his children and i think he doesnt want to be with me anymore,even thou he says he does.it hurts me so much to hear him say thats what he would like to do.we had a argument about this last night, and i ended up forgiving him, but it still going round in my mind, i have no one to talk to about this, I feel so un loved and hurt . is this how all men think ?. what have these slags got that i havent.
2007-05-07 02:51:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They are hookers... I mean you don't want to be that do you?? To be honest with you, me and my boyfriend get into arguments about this too... But my sister who is 12 years older than me says that when she was my age it bothered her and now it doesn't. Think like this - - You are getting bothered by girls that your husband will never meet. You should give him something to love... Just a little breathing room... If you used a vibrator does that mean that you don't love your husband or does it mean that you were bored and wanted to easily get off?? I hate to say this to you... cause I am working on not getting mad about the same thing... Just loosen the reins a little. ♥
2007-05-07 02:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by RobbinATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, we're all different, but it's true that many men enjoy pictures of pretty women. I know I do. I also know that I love my wife very much, and enjoy her company more than anyone else's (even though she's often frustrating and infuriating she's always lovable and adorable. kind of like a cat.). A picture or a fantasy doesn't scratch your back or snuggle at night. A picture doesn't smell nice and feel warm and comfortable.
It's a tough time when you're pregnant; I suspect you feel unlovable (a good part of that is the hormone levels changing), but you can be sure that this is a tough time for your husband, too. As much as you can, let the little things slide and keep being affectionate with him - I don't think many women really understand just how much rejection they put onto their men, and how much it stings. The more he associates you with love, affection and pleasure, the less he's likely to find any urge to spend time with fantasy women, and the more likely he is to respond with the same. Give what you want, and you often get it back.
2007-05-07 03:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by John R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to do the exotic dances yourself, or find some other way to capture his attention provocatively. Fix breakfast in nothing but an apron, shower together, whatever it takes to be THE object of his desire again. How about trying something new in the bedroom? Take away any reason for him to go elsewhere. Show him that his desires matter to you. Cast off your inhibitions & save your relationship before he decides to do more than just LOOK elsewhere. It's just the two of you -- being naked shouldn't matter. If you wouldn't feel comfortable doing that, think of how comfortable "alone" would feel.
2016-05-17 09:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST AND FOREMOST IF HE DID NOT LOVE U
OR CARE FOR YOU THEN HE WOULD HAVE NOT
MENTIONED IT TO U. HE IS LETTING U KNOW
WHAT HE IS NOW INTERESTED IN AT THE MOMENT
AND TIME. IT IS HONESTLY SOMETIMES UN-
COMFORTABLE FOR A PREGNANT WOMAN
TO HAVE INNER COURSE WITH HER HUSBAND
WHILE SHE IS EXPECTING. IT DOES NOT MEAN
HE NO LONGER LOVES YOU OR IS NO LONGER
INTERESTED IN YOU. WOULD YOU RATHER
HAVE HIM HIDE SOMETHING LIKE THIS FROM
YOU? AND ALSO MAYBE THIS IS SOMETHING
THAT WILL PASS. JUST GIVE IT SOME TIME.
THERE IS HONESTLY NO HARM DONE TO YOU.
I HOPE THAT YOU WILL BE ABLE TO COPE WITH
ALL OF THIS. THE MAIN CONCERN IS THE WELL
BEING OF YOUR CHILD AND YOURSELF. WOULDN'T
YOU RATHER HAVE HIM LOOK AT THIS AT HOME,
THEN BE OUT SOMEWHERE HE SHOULDN'T BE
OR BE WITH SOMEONE HE SHOULDN'T BE WITH?
JUST HAVE PATIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING.
IT WILL WORK IT SELF OUT............................
2007-05-07 03:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Rosemary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweety ive had the same arguement with my man and cause i forever nagged him for it he no longer does this anymore just tell him how you feel like unattractive unwanted try and drum it into him sooner or later he will have to stop it goodluck.cause he will not want to lose u hang in ther things will change if u tell it to him straight.
2007-05-07 03:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by angelgina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him watch the porno. Cause he is going to do it anyways. Atleast make the best of it.
2007-05-07 03:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by xcbuffrunner1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so insecure and let him do it. At least he isn't going out and sleeping around. He probably needs an outlet since you are pregnant and he most likely isnt getting as much sex as before.
2007-05-07 02:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
awww upoor thing.... i just had a baby too but my husband LOVES his porn i never felt this way but yet i no he loves me more it just kinda makes them get more ideas on loving u is all just dont let him go any further than MOVIES....
2007-05-07 02:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Suzanne S 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think the porn is just a phase, after awhile even porn gets boring
2007-05-07 02:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Men need to do this or they will get very sick.
2007-05-07 02:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by forethree2 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋