if you lost a baby a week before it was due?

Question

we lost our son a week before it was due because of a cord getting a knot or kinck in it now will it happen again and was my age 38 the cause

Answer 1

I'm terribly sorry about your loss. I can't imagine how difficult it must have been to go full term and then lose your son.

Unfortunately, these things happen sometimes. Your age had absolutely nothing to do with the cord getting a knot or kink in it. My sister-in-law was 40 when she had her first child, and women older than that are having babies all the time. There is nothing you could have done to prevent it. Please, please don't blame yourself. I don't mean to minimize your pain or loss, but this horrible thing that happened was probably just a fluke.

While it's always a possibility that it could happen again, it's not very likely. If you have concerns, and I'm sure you do, talk to your OB about this and what the chances are that it might happen again. In my opinion, the outcome of ending up with a beautiful, healthy baby is well worth it to take the risk of getting pregnant again.

I hope and pray that you are able to get through this.

Answer 2

The knot or kink was caused by the baby swimming in a loop while it was still small enough to do so. Just like you tie a shoelace, the baby swam through the loop it had made, and managed to get a knot out of the deal. This is just a freak accident, and sometimes babies who do this will survive anyway, my youngest did, the doc was shocked when she found the knot in her cord, because if she had just pulled on it enough, then she would have suffocated before being born. I really dont see this happening again, but since it is something you can't cause or control, you just can't know for sure. Age has absolutely nothing to do with it, I was 28 when I had my youngest. Maternal age affects genetics like mental redardation, or downs syndrome, or extra fingers etc... The cord is simply a physical condition, and since it is internal, it is completely out of our control. I am sorry for your loss, I have lost a baby as well, and I can tell you that the fear will not go away when you get pregnant again. You will just have to wait it out in fear, and will notice yourself being ridiculously careful about everything you do, down to not taking any tylenol even lol! I got pregnant about 2 months after I lost my baby, and now I have a healthy 2.5 year old. I still miss my other baby and wonder what he would be like, but I know how blessed I am to have my daughter. Good luck and baby dust to you!

Answer 3

I know others have said this, but no, the age shouldn't have been the issue, if you were that far along with a healthy child you are still healthy to conceive. If you are worried about age, though, have you considered adoption? Adopting instate, and especially adopting from foster care, can be relatively cheap (or free) if money is a concern. If you do have your heart set on a biological child, I am so sorry to hear you lost yours so very close to the due date, and I would not think that it should happen again. Rarely are pregnancy problems genetic, and this one definitely doesn't seem like it. But always ask your doctor.

Answer 4

Most women who have a stillbirth will be able to have a healthy baby in their next pregnancy. Teens under the age of 15 and women older than their mid-30s have an increased risk of stillbirth. However, just because you were at an increased risk does not mean that you will not be able to carry a baby to live birth. My youngest was born when I was 38. Good friends of ours had their first baby when she was 40 and he was 41. Both of our pregnancies and deliveries had some complications, but our children are now 9 and 10 and are healthy, happy children. Please accept my sympathies on the loss of your son. If your hospital has a newborn loss support group, take advantage of it, you will find help there to get through this difficult time.

Answer 5

I have worked in nursing for many years. And have seen these terrible accidents of nature happen more times than people would realize.

Your age had nothing to do with it. And the cord getting knotted was just a freaky accident. It is just as likely to reoccur a second time, as it is for you to be struck by lightening twice in the next 5 minutes.

When it is time, and you are ready to try again, do so in the knowledge that there was nothing you could have done to prevent this terrible accident, and nothing you do now will cause it to happen again.

Answer 6

Things like this happen is not because you are to blame- age, diet, etc. When I attended a pre-natal class, we were always told the positive part of the pregnancy. They said, whatever happens inside us is a work of a well engineered process. The baby wl know how to disentangle itself frm its own cord. Honestly for you, I believe it is not meant to be just yet. It is difficult, I can understand. I lost mine the first time, though not the same way, and I still asked myself what caused it. But when I conceived the 2nd time, he was the most wonderful boy. Chances the same thing happening again, we cannot predict the future. But if you believe in prayers, pray for your unborn child. Not even your doctor can help you.

Answer 7

I am so sorry for your loss.

Just know that your age had nothing to do with it,my nephew was born with 2 knots in his cord and it was wrapped around his neck. My SIL was 22 when she had him, she had to have a hysterectomy when she was 26 so she didn't have any more but she did have my niece before my nephew and had no problems with her.

Answer 8

I am SO sorry, I know the pain of a lost child!

I would not think it would happen again. I don't think your age had anything to do with your loss, either.

I would Try again.

Answer 9

I am so very sorry about the loss of your little one. My heart goes out to you.

Your age would not be the cause of the cord problem, I assure you.

Answer 10

I am so very, very sorry for your loss.

I'm not sure your age had anything to do with it. I would most definitely ask your doctor any and all questions that you have, especially if you're planning on another pregnancy.

Take care.