what do I do when a 65 year old man comes on to me?

Question

I am only 19 and I am clinically depressed have been for a long time although I am getting help now. Well I felt really down this morning and went into my voluntary work at the hospital with league of friends, well Brian who I work with is lovely all so I thought until today, he tried to cheer me up but then before I knew it he was kissing me and had his hands down my trousers. What should I do, should I tell someone, I am too scared to go back there now but it is not right for a man to do that to me and he kept saying things to me that make me think it's o.k and he then added it's our little secret,

Answer 1

Did you resist him? If you did, the old pervert assaulted you. At an absolute minimum, tell your supervisor ASAP. It is NOT ok for him to do that to you, and he has no business at a hospital. What if he did it to a helpless patient? Please report him now. You may even want to call police and file sexual assault charges.

Answer 2

First of all gather your strength, you did not do anything wrong so stop thinking you did and report this pervert. Don't wait another minute. Ask for a meeting with the CEO if you must. Make sure this gets known. This man is a menace to
every other young woman anywhere. Don't let this go for to do so will only allow this man to hurt someone else.
Remember you did nothing wrong. Report him immediately.
It doesn't matter how much time has elapsed since his uncalled for attack for that is exactly what it was a sexual attack on you, do it now, report him.... .Please!

Answer 3

What just happened to you is considered sexual assault. Go to the police, or a trusted friend and tell them what has happened, and then go to the police.

This is not your fault, unfortunately some older men, and some men in general think they have a right to treat women in this manner. Well, they DON'T!

Please contact the authorites, you will not only be helping yourself, but also others who come in contact with this perverted individual.

Good luck to you. And if you are being treated for depression with a counselor, please bring up this incident. It could have an impact on you and it is better your counselor know about it, than having to guess what is bothering you.

Best Wishes,
Karen

Answer 4

You have been molested... at 19. I thought paedos only aim for young kids. I've been sexually abused myself but at an earlier age, so I know how you feel right now. You definitely should report it to the management and see what they can do about the situation. In the meantime, do tell your relatives or friends about this matter (someone you trust) so you won't feel like you're alone on this.

It's really creepy when you said the old man told you to keep it your "little secret"... reminds me of my molester. *shivers*

Answer 5

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Answer 6

When I was young one of the things I thought was important was to not make a fuss. This man has taken advantage of your good nature. He knew you wouldn't do anything. He knew that you wouldn't know what to do. No matter what you do about this incident learn from it and if there is another time in another place make a fuss. If you are scared figure out what it is you are afraid of and face it. Don't let a dirty old man keep you from living the life you want to live.

Answer 7

This is sexual abuse and you would be doing yourself and others a favor by reporting it. Just remember, you are not causing the problem by reporting it, you are solving the problem. What he did is not right and if he did it to you, he has and will do it to others. Some who may be younger or even more venerable that you are right now.

I would also bring this up with your therapist so you can talk about it to someone and get your own feelings out and work through them.

Answer 8

Don't be stupid. You know it was wrong so there's no reason for you to not get help. He did it without consent, so that's somewhat rape. You're 19, you should be old enough to know what he did was right or wrong. And no, don't keep it a secret. And if you don't wish to believe what I'm saying then ask yourself this: Why does he want it to be a secret?

Man, you don't even know if he has some sort of disease he can pass onto you - might as well get yourself a check-up while you've a chance. And why fear him? He's obviously manipulating your thoughts. Do what's right for you and him so get that old fart to justice.

Answer 9

Call the Police as fast as possible and make a case for it(sue etc.) Now one has the right to do that to you and they should not get away with it no matter how old and senile they are. See if he has other people gone in, and get a class action suit going(see if he touched other people).

Answer 10

looks like we have ourselves a pervert. Next time good ol' Brian lays his hands on you, either knee him in the groin or grab unto his shriveled up little weener and squeeze the son of a b'ch. l bet good old Brian won't try that again with you.

Glad to see you are getting help and much luck to you!!