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My husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 months and he likes to chat on line with other women I never was worried until the other night a woman texted and called him on his cell phone she live far away but that is not the point I expressed that I was not happy about it he was very appoligetic and told me that he would not let it happen again he said it was a happit he had to break what should I do??????
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2007-05-07 00:50:41 · 34 answers · asked by usehelp 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

34 answers

Married for three and a half months, trying to get pregnant (from your previous questions).... doesn't look like he'd be cheating, esp. if he wants kids with you.... but maybe he's used to the ego boost from the online flirting thing.

If he said it's a habit, maybe it is.

Some guys have trouble going from "single and available" mode to "I'm married and leave me alone" mode. Especially if they are good looking guys women hit on.

Put your foot down on this stuff. That other woman didn't get his cell phone number by communicating with aliens from outer space, she probably got it from your husband.

What he's doing is unacceptable behaviour. He should bag all that chat stuff, unless it's gardening or mechanics' forums, and spend time with you.

2007-05-07 01:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by joe b 3 · 1 1

He is emotionally cheating. He is giving other women the time and attention that should be directed to you. You should be worried and you should let him know you will not stand for it. No more chatting no more texts. I am sorry to say but this is what happens when people don't draw there cheating lines before they get married. Some one can always say I didn't think that was cheating or wrong. You haven't been married very long so do it now. Think real hard about everything that you consider cheating make a list if necessary, then tell him what you will not tolerate in your life. You should do this with everything from cheating to parenting. Who will work, who will take on most of the house cleaning, who will pay what, where will extra money go. There is always room for negotiating if something comes up along the way but it is better to know what you are getting into and right now neither of you have a clue.

2007-05-07 02:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Trisha 5 · 1 1

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2016-03-19 00:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Your husband should not be chatting with women on line, and you never should have accepted such behavior. Now you've created a monster, because it's not likely that he's going to stop. Very foolish of you, girlfriend.

2007-05-07 01:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

So I guess he didn't think to mention this little habit to you before you married! He may say it won't happen again, but he will continue. This is not a good sign. The two of you need to work with someone to find out what a marriage is all about and do so now. This won't get better.

2007-05-07 01:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1 1

If I were you I wouldn't say anything else and buy some spy ware for the computer, that way you can track all his email's and his passwords. Also keep a calendar of where he is for a couple of week's and get a detailed billing for the cell phone. Highlight all the number's you know and then call the number's you don't. I would also put a recorder on any land based phones you have in the home, but make sure you have a jack that is unseen. If you don't, have a jack installed in a closet, or somewhere he wouldn't look. This is how I caught my ex. Hope this helps you, and you can find peace.

2007-05-07 01:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi B 1 · 0 2

You sound like my husband, i dont think there is anything wrong with someone chatting over the internet afterall you are asking strangers for advise now should he be worried that you are talking about your marrage problems on the internet we dont know where that person is that we are chatting to or even trying to help so dont worry i am sure that he has a lot of people he chats to. Why not try the site that he uses and chat to him on the internet but not as yourself so that you can see that he is not picking up girls like that and maybe you will meet a good friend on the net. Its a way of letting steam off

2007-05-07 01:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

A habit he had to break? Why would he still be giving his number out to other women online anyways... Just because he is not cheating on you physically (as you know of) doesn't mean that he cannot get emotionally attached to another woman. I would keep doing what you are doing and communicate with him about maybe not doing it and tell him that what he is doing makes you feel uncomfortable and try to work things out from their, but most people that cheat start by cheating emotionally. (not always true though)
Good Luck and God Bless

2007-05-07 01:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3 1

FIRST, I'd either cut the cord on the computer or take the keyboard away.

Secondly, talking with other woman online, giving out his cell phone number and all is cheating. There isn't even a thought here.

Did he meet you online? If he did, chances are he will continue looking.

2007-05-07 00:58:08 · answer #9 · answered by Patty G 5 · 4 1

Well I have been married for 15 years....I chat online with women all of the time, and sometimes I get sex...it's great.

2007-05-07 02:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by wombat2u2004 4 · 0 2

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