Me and my partner are engaged and found out i am pregnant a month ago. Before finding out that, we used to go out alot! and drink a lot, but we used to be affectionate!
But when ever we got physical it was after we had a drink!
Since finding out i was pg we havent been out and i havent even had one drink and im fine about that, but we havent been physical once and i know its more me, than him why do i feel like this?
sensible answers only please!
2007-05-06 23:29:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its a total mind and body change,you're being protective over your child inside you,maybe its a shock to you,carry on as normal,without the drink,you'll be ok good luck
2007-05-06 23:34:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be that now you are expecting, all your hormnes are out of the window, it can throw up all sorts of emotions and thoughts. The main thing is that you two as a couple stay together and be there for each other because when that little person comes along there will be no time for going out and enjoying life in the early days,
Having children brings its own challenges so if the relationship is in trouble it would be wise to work on it now rather than leaving it until the baby is born. The two of you need to sit down and discuss all aspects of your relationship down to whats going to change once the baby is here.
Get some counselling on relationship issues and make sure you both agree on everything.
2007-05-06 23:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, how do you know it's more you than him?
On the you part - with pregnancy, your body goes through all sorts of hormonal fluctuations which is going to impact on your moods as well as sensitivity. Sounds like the two of you need to talk about this new event to be in your lives and it's impact on your relationship. You'll know from that conversation with him if your relationship is in trouble or not.
2007-05-06 23:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by scorp5543 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol makes you feel euphoric and relaxed....and well horny. Not that I would recommend it, but I've heard most Dr.'s say an occasional glass of wine isn't bad for your baby. Of course check w/ your Doc first as I'm no expert and know none of the details of your pregnancy. You could also try other things like oysters or whipped cream to get you in the mood. That's probably a better suggestion than alcohol. Also, this way you could take care of your food cravings... while you know. Hope this helped.
2007-05-06 23:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by GreyGHost29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the dynamics of your relationship have completely changed, maybe you were not ready for this, but, tough break really, as its here and you are going to have to deal with it. so, your body is kind of shutting down a bit in order to give you some space so you can get your head together. don't worry so much about it though, it will all come out right soon enough. give yourself some time .
2007-05-10 02:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by fat momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that some women while pregnant do not feel like getting touchy , or intimate with the other half. It will happen though. Maybe you also need to find another hobby as to which would replace drinking. Maybe you could sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel, other wise he will never know there is a problem.
2007-05-06 23:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Janet R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of a sudden just maybe he has had a bit of a fright & wishes to ensure no harm comes to you because of the baby,Big responsibility all of a sudden & he now has to think for three.maybe you can help him here as your relationship grows & by encouraging him that idea of going out with I am sure come back One step at a time.
2007-05-07 03:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun! congrats! maybe the thought of you being pregnant just has to sink in for the both of you!!! you and your partner need to talk about these issues....why do you guys have to drink in order to be physical with each other? that is not a health relationship! you both must beable to be comfortable with each with or with out alcohol. the best bet will be for you and him to have a good talk and see where the problem lies! I really do hope things work out and may your pregnancy go well!
2007-05-06 23:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by Nes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't drink while your pregnant.
The feeling that is bothering you is maybe fear. It could be that you fear your parents might be mad at you or the fear that others might judge you. Your bothered by fear.
Another could be anxiety which resulted from your pregnancy. Maybe you didn't plan it at all and you do not have plans yet.
Discuss this with your partner and maybe he could help and support you.
2007-05-06 23:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by JP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be feeling unattractive because you are pregnant. Also, sometimes the hormone change will cause a lack of desire. Just remember that the reason that you are engaged and pregnant is because you love him. Think about all of the wonderful things that you love about him, maybe it will help you get closer to him.
2007-05-06 23:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋