What things should you try and do before you get married. Or perhaps for those of you who are already married what things do you wish you had done before you got married? Someone once told me live in a 1 bedroom apartment/house for a year to get to know yourself better. I think this is for sure one of them...
2007-05-06 23:01:23 · 27 answers · asked by shanghai_sami 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually I think there are things you should do before you have kids which may or may not be as a married person...
1. I think you should do some international travel (with or without your partner) - travel with kids is hard because they get bored very easily, they complain about everything from food to rooms to entertainment... it makes the wxperience less fun.
2. I think you should so all your studying / academinc improvments before you have a family / marrying, since studying is very time consuming and also studying is the time you may wish to have a fuller social life)
3. I think you should do all your "raging" and late night partying BEFORE you get married since it is basically a time of selfishness and self indulgence. Partyting basically means drinking a lot, sleeping with various partners and maybe using drugs. None of those things are suitable to do whilst married and in a commited relationship with someone. So get it out of your system first.
2007-05-06 23:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by lala_cewex_australia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is big step towards the word Commitment. It is not simply living with someone but its taking on responsibility.
So before getting married I would suggest the following.
1. Be sure that BOTH of you are ready.
2. Get to know parents or relatives on both sides.
3. PLAN together where will you live, what to buy (stove, fridge, furniture), have you talked or even thought about children?
4. Is there confidence when both of you talk about marriage?
5. (My own opinion) DO NOT have sex before getting married. Learning and exploring each other is just the beginning of marriage. Don't spoil it before the wedding.
6. Do the parents or relatives agree? (Having the blessings and support of relatives is useful and benefits the children)
It doesn't matter how many bedrooms you have. You already know who you are and once you are married you SHOULD be sleeping in the same bed.
Getting to know the other person is half the fun and half the sadness.
Sometimes LOVE is not Enough and at that time you have to make the marriage WORK.
Good luck.
2007-05-06 23:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by X1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole crap about going to a strip club or getting laid before you get married is just dumb. If you're not that kind of guy, it shouldn't matter at all and it certainly won't make you any better or happier.
Living with your future-wife before getting married is a really good idea... I have met many couples that were engaged, moved in together, and ended their relationship because they just couldn't live together.
Living by yourself for a while is an idea, though it depends on you. Chances are you love being with your fiancee and want nothing more than to be with her! Why hinder it.
Get yourself mentally ready for everything perhaps... living arrangements, finances, etc! Marriage is not a "prison sentence." I never understood the whole notion of doing crazy things before you tie the knot. If you're happy the way things are, why change it?
2007-05-06 23:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cochy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-06 23:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by A-ROD 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got married at 18 so i didn't get to do alot of stuff before hand. The biggest thing I would say is be adventurous, go skydiving or something. Married life is wonderful don't get me wrong. But you have 2 or more people to think about after, so do all the single things to get it out of your system. Go to the singles nights, and one night stands if that's your thing, learn a new hobby, take a long drive and see where you end up. Living by yourself is definitely a good idea.
2007-05-06 23:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by babyfireangel03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to know eachother inside and out, in every way, shape and form. You should never find out anything after marriage. Therefore, you should be together at least 5 years before marriage and you should be in the late 20's, early 30's.
That's when your certain, that it's true love. When you both could never live without eachother and your definitely ready to make that major commitment. Marriage is major and it should be highly respected, because that is a commitment to spend the rest of your lives together.
Do not get pregnant immediately after marriage. You should be enjoying life together at least one year after you get married, because then the baby takes all the attention. Men always want all the attention.
Love is when you will do anything to make eachother happy, not yourself. If your selfish and just trying to make yourself happy, you are not in love and you will get a divorce sometime in the future.
Good Luck. You could have a wonderful life.
2007-05-06 23:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not married but am soon to be and tho i had done a lot of the things i wanted to do there are still so many things i wish i had done, i lived in a one bed flat and i loved it! i lived without kids and i again loved it, now for the things i wish i had done,,,, i wish i had done the night clubbing thing before settling down and having a family and long term partner, i alwasy wished for a one night stand,, weird i know but i did try it and ended up settling down with the bloke so still i feel as though i missed it even so i had the excitement of arranging it. It would have been nice to get to know me and really know me for myself first but still its good fun either way and im happy.
You cant tell when the right one comes along so i wouldnt say its a regret.
2007-05-06 23:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think living what they've said that they've missed living in a one bedroom apartment house is when a person got married so early in life that they had missed doing something in life alone without someone to consult with.
2007-05-06 23:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a lot , but a lot of fun because once you get married is a one way commitment with your partner, and so later on, when things are not so spicy, you look outside instead of what you should be looking at home .And not re great what you should have done and you did not
2007-05-06 23:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by algoba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being single is a wonderful experience. We as young adults have heard the word "NO" for 18yrs. Just try living out on your own for the experience of no person or anyone telling you what or should you do. You have time to marry later and will.
2007-05-06 23:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by true thoughts 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋