what to do?

Question

here it goes I have been with a man off and on for about 15/6 years or so well our relationship had been rocky and it got rougher over the years. I can accept resposibilty with some of our problems but not all I knew he was a drinker which I'm not and nor do I do drugs then I find out he's a gambler I also knew he fooled around on me yet we have been through many things together. These last 6.7 years has been very bad I became very ill and @ times my pain was so intense i could hardly walk and this ended up to be a big problem. He became my caregiver and then one day I realized all we done was argue he did the best he could yet .... for many many years i was the bread winner.I had enough one night when he just had to go meet his son whom in all the yrs never came to see us .. ok here goes i few nights ago I called a wrong number and this man started laffing and stuff little did i know he had been searching for me almost 20 years what should I do I still care about my longtime mate help

i wish U had read between the lines instead of being nasty about my question so he drank? so he did drugs so he messsed around? first of all who said anything about me having an affair? I stayed by this mans side for a very long time through think and thin and yet even though I'm chronically ill does he check up on me noooo.... so why judge me I live alone he moved back home with his mother this man has been the love of my life I thought if this is the way UC me thats fine btw we are both 53 not kids and I do know how things in this world works and this man if I never ever c him thats fine because who wants/needs a person who is chronicly ill evidently my man didn't when the going got tough he got going so say what U want if I really wanted another man I would have done it long ag when I had to pay my man room and board your answer sounds like U may have a pb also
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Answer 1

If this is what makes you happy then go for it. People can judge all they want, but until they walk a mile in your shoes it is unfair to do so.