What do I do? My husband kicked me out and said it was done?

Question

I have been married for a really short time. We have had lots of problems in our relationship but none to big they couldnt be fixed. Everything was going ok that morning, he got mad just because I couldnt answer a question right off, I was in pain from a dental procedure so he called me a slut, and kicked me out and said I wasnt welcome back. I have NOT cheated on him and no desire to. I married him understanding a problem of him not being able to have sex and him being 18 yrs older. I didnt care, I love him a lot and I didnt care about any problems in that area he had. I didnt base my relationship on that. I miss him and love him, but I dont understand what is going on, he has changed a lot since our marriage and has been acting funny lately. He said he loved me more then I would ever know and he said the night before he needed and wanted me. What happened to make him be so quick to kick me out just because I couldnt answer him? I am so lost and hurt, what should I do?

Answer 1

Your not the only person to marry a jackass, and while it does hurt, you will get over it and move on. Find you a nice young man who can have sex, and not be jealious of your youth. How is Donald Trump anyways???

Answer 2

This is payback for marrying an 18 yr. old. He's still a teenager. I have no idea how old you are, but he was certainly not ready to get married, whether you loved eachother, or not. I don't understand, what the hell is the rush? He's going to act strange at times, because he might be confused. He might be realizing that he's trapped for the rest of his life. I'm sure he'll get out of it.

Whatever you do, don't let him take the reigns. Take some control. It's your life too. Don't let any 18 yrs.old man kick you to the curb, because you didn't answer a question at his perfect time.

He will certainly take advantage of you if you let him. Confront him and demand an apology. Tell him, he's not getting away that easy. He can't just tell you to leave for some nonsence like that. Just get what you want, no matter how difficult it may be. You also can't just slip out the back that easily if you are married. You made a commitment to spend the rest of your lives together. Give marriage alot more respect and when you feel like you've tried everything to work this out and there is still no response, that's when YOU make the decision.

Answer 3

Why did you marry him, he sounds like a tyrant? May I suggest he might just be suffering from depression? I know that may sound lame but when things are viewed down a black tunnel there is scant regard paid to those around one whether friends or family. But your question also begs the question why you would marry an impotent man in his 40s? I mean for real - why? The age difference is not a big deal but the combination plus "we have had lots of problems"makes me wonder if you have some problems and you guys just had a co-dependency marriage. For now you should ask him to seek counselling and if he refuses then leave him at least for a few weeks and see if he apologises. If he does then get to a counsellor asap because otherwise it spells divorce whether you like it or not. I think he could be suffering from schizophrenia or bi-polar either of which might be responsible in some way for his other (ed) problem. As for you now, it is time to phone a friend and unload. You must be heartbroken.

Answer 4

He obviously feels that he is better than you and that he has all the power in the relationship. You don't want that kind of man in your life.

You need to find someone who treats you as an equal and hopefully doesn't have a problem with sex. It's a lot more fun, that way.

If he has made promises you to you about looking after you, or if you have given up a job or opportunities to be with him, then make sure that you get a proper settlement from him. It doesn't have to be half of his assets, but it shouldn't be nothing either.

Or perhaps he is just an a**hole who is jealous and scared about losing you and says things he doesn't mean when he is upset. When he apologises and cries asking you to come back, before you decide, make sure that you don't mind dealing with that sh*t all the time, because you *will* have to.

Answer 5

Is you name on the house? Are the two of you legally married?He can't just kick you out....anyway,apparently he doesn't really love you.Or he could just be at wit's end with the relationship..and is ready for a breath of fresh air(this could mean a new woman,or just no more fighting with the same person about everything all the time).If you don't want to leave,don't..but don't push things or argue it could make things worse...Do you have somewhere to go?Maybe you should get some things and flow with the separation for now...maybe you guys can meet up or call each other to work thru your differences and little by little come back together(or not).If he's that unhappy..maybe you don't want him anymore either and just aren't admitting it to yourself.Marriage is a b*tch..I know.Good luck..........

Answer 6

It's been my experience that when a man is through being with someone, he means it. take him at his word. And BTW, I am really wondering about people, who say that sex is not an important part of marriage. Tell that to the person, who isn't getting any. Sex is a very important part of a marriage. It's how we express love to that one special person. It can bond people.
You need ask yourself why you feel so little about yourself that you are willing to stay in a relationship that has no physical intimacy and with a husband that can't even feel the slightest empathy, when you're in pain.
You're, obviously, a vibrant woman with intellectual, emotional, and physical needs, who has a lot of love to give to someone, who can return those gifts. Quit scraping the bottom of the barrel. Give yourself credit. Love yourself and ask for more out of life.
He can't give you what you want or need. He knows this. don't look at it as a loss. Look at this as the biggest favor he could've ever done for you. Find someone, who deserves you

Answer 7

Hopefully you have a save place to stay, why dont you call him and find out what happend or go and see him to discuss this matter if you really love him but just think before you go back for love do you want someone that kicks you out if you cant answer something in a second time frame. Dont you think that there is someone out there that will appreciate, lover you and wont kick you out. Just think a little bit before going back into a unsure relationship

Answer 8

Why is he kicking you out of the house! What right does he have to do that! Sweetie, you seem like a really nice girl. if you can find a place to stay, I would take some time for yourself, get some counseling, and really re-think moving back in with this man. Take some time to be sure of what this relationship is really giving you, if anything at all. You are a person to, with feelings and needs, don't forget that!

Answer 9

Something happen along the line. It sounds like he's bi polar or into something to have a serious mental deviation like this.
I would bet he's on drugs, then be careful. If you have a place to stay, stay there for now. Who's on the lease? if it's him your out of luck. See an attorney. Somethings amiss here.
Without knowing all your attributes it's hard to give advice. You need help, he sounds like something is going on. I've seen this several times and, it's always been attributed to another lady, drugs and, once Bi-polar.
A beating could be next, don't allow it.

Answer 10

with the big age gap b/w u both, it is very clear that he has his complexes and is v possessive on u.
on ur part u shud act wisely and win his confidence, since even a small friendly gesture of urs towards somebody may provoke his anger and frustration.
the only thing that can b done in this situation is a face to face talk not involving abuses or blames. all the best!