A few yrs. ago there was this single woman that would talk to me a little but when my huband was around she would laugh and joke with him like I wasn't there.when Ispoke to him about it his reaction was defensive and that he didn't see it. Our daughters are the same age so we run into each other at times. I would not go to events because of this if he went. Not a good thing. The sport they are in is away from home alot and because of work he doesn't go.Her and I have started to become somewhat freinds.I have told him how happy I that things are better and that we actually talk. The team had a car wash my husband and I and her helped with it. Towards the end of it was whe the problem came about. They were as a team she washed he sprayed. There was soap on her face he jokingly is going to spray her to get it off.See her see him. I complain that we don't do anything together that we don't have fun. If he teams up shouldn't it be with the wife? He doesn't understand why it upsets me.
2007-05-06 20:16:46 · 5 answers · asked by wrplm57 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The way he's acting is inappropriate. He's married. Why is he flirting with another woman? And in front of his wife at that? Even worse.
You two need to sit down and talk. Explain to him why it upsets you. Do your best to lay it all out logically and help him understand. Ask him how he would feel if the tables were turned. Would he like it if you walked away to be on another man's team instead of on his own? Especially if he had noticed that man checking you out?
Unfortunately all you can do (that I can think of!) is sit down with your husband and try to explain. In a marriage two people are supposed to consider each other's feelings. He ought to respect how you feel and stay away from this woman.
Also, be careful not to whine and complain too much. Be aware of *how* you communicate your feelings to your husband. Is your tone of voice whiny? Nobody likes someone who nags. And nobody likes being preached to. Sit him down and talk to him logically once; and then, try making an effort to show him you care about him by doing things he likes with him. If he's into a sport buy tickets for the two of you and go with him. Learn something about that sport and ask him questions during the game, and cheer with him. I mean, you're both equally responsible for whether or not you have fun together. If you don't like your current situation, try taking action to change it.
2007-05-06 20:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may not understand right now why it upsets you, but I completely do. He will probably bring up you not trusting him, but I tell him, I trust you but I don't trust her. I would definitely remind him once again why it bothers or hurts you. If she continues to flirt with him or he does it back, let him know that if it happens again that you will tell her to get off him or find someone else to flirt with, but that he DOES have the chance to tell her himself first.Otherwise, you'll have to do it for him.
Since you're somewhat friends, ask her yourself if she's interested in someone or straight up if she's interested in 'your' husband. If she says no, then just go with that, but tell your hubby to chill out on disrespecting you with this woman. Be careful...most single women do not care about you or your feelings about your husband. They will just go by what the guy does...that's why you have to check your man. I honestly think it'll take time and a good one-on-one conversation to get your man to understand. Work on the wretched woman that DOES understand..
If your love is strong enough, you'll get through it.
These are just one of the ways we show others how much we love our men and what will do for our marriage. There's nothing wrong with that!
2007-05-07 03:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lei Back and Relax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay there is a bigger problem here.. you need to focus on the bigger issue because her and him are not your problem. You are feeling left out and like you and he aren't doing anything fun together.. This is a you and he issue not a her issue and its something you and he will need to work out, either together or counseling and you and he will need to work Thru both of your lack of "fun" time together. You cant make him understand anything... you and he need to work Thru the issues of why you feel this way
2007-05-07 03:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by Laine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit complaining and do something about it. Find ways to spice up your relationship before it gets stale and he finds a replacement! There are plenty of ways to regain your husband's interest. Use your imagination!! Think back to what you did to get his attention before you were married.
2007-05-07 03:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you simply 'watching' this? dont get yourself into 'ignoring or complaining rut' ...do something about it instead of talking about it. he doesnt understand your point of view because you havent done such a thing to him!
try doing the same thing in front of him so he can understand his actions hurt.
2007-05-07 03:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋