I know people who say they do, and others who say they don't until they are ready to be married. What do you think?
2007-05-06 20:11:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Only if the person becomes special in my life. There isn't any reason to have your kids become attached to someone who isn't going to be there for them.
2007-05-08 02:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been on the kid's end, and I have seen it done both ways. I would say introduce them if you are serious, just to find out how both would work in the new family dynamic. If it is a fling type of thing, or you are unsure about if the person is a keeper, hold off. It is not worth upsetting them.
Of course, it all depends upon your relationship with your kids. If you are the primary care parent, it would be hard not to introduce them. However, very young children should wait, so you can avoid attachment / confusion unless you are very sure that this person will be a permanent fixture. Also, if they are old enough to understand what's going on (young adults), they are old enough to meet your dates. They can even give you valuable opinions... though that means they can tell you things you don't want to hear too!
2007-05-06 20:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by peachfuzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,I'm not single and my kids are 23 and 26 but if I was single and dating(yeah,like I could snag a date) I would introduce them. After the third date,it's a good idea so the kids aren't shocked that the parent has a life. And kids of all ages can sometimes sense things about people so let them "sniff them out"!
2007-05-06 22:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. This is part of the reason my 2nd marriage failed. My ex could not tell where she ended and they began, so to speak, which made her seem to think that I "married" them as well as her. Her kids were both grown and in their 20's, so from my perspective, the "package deal" concept didn't fly.
On the other hand, the woman I am seeing (and living with) now have been together nearly a year and I have yet to meet her son, by his choosing. Obviously, I haven't pushed the issue.
2007-05-07 00:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by steveshurtleff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the children are young and/or emotionally vulnerable I think it is awfully hard on them to see new "mommy" or "daddy" figures come and go. They don't understand dating and should, I believe, be kept out of the process until one is intent on marriage.
If the children are more mature, then perhaps it's ok. It truly depends on the child and how much they can process and understand. My three are all so very different. =)
2007-05-07 03:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anne Teak 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will if I date the person for awhile and find that i need a second opinion, kids are pretty good judges of who is "right" to date their parent.♥
2007-05-06 23:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to be certain that this relationship has a chance of becoming permanent before i introduce my son to the person. it is confusing to a child to meet every person you make a romatic contact with. when i know there is a definate connection i will introduce my child because when there is a break up and your child grew attached to this person they get hurt to.
2007-05-06 20:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by roelienwatton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never introduced my kids to the people I date...then again I don't have kids.
2007-05-06 20:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know. My parents are together and I am also a one mans woman so I dont think I will have kids and date someone else.
2007-05-06 20:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced and unattached. My kids actually want me to be happy. I usually let them have a couple minutes with a prospective after-ten finalist!
2007-05-06 20:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋