"Bea" is 64 and on a fixed medical benefit and income. She started selling organic food off a website in Oregon, and was scraping by. She signed some desperate woman, "Elle" from Minnesota to the site, and it seems she's hit it pretty good with a Minnesota school district. Elle now has the governor of Minnesota trying to get all the MN school systems to go in. Bea gets 3% of the action.
Bea is now afraid she might go over her $800 income limit to keep receiving benefits and wants to start a corporation making me President to save her benefits. At first I said I would go in. Now Bea sends like six E-mails a day and is trying to get me to sell my state like OR and MN. I have other employment and kids and don't want to be that busy. Bea got snippy and said my parents didn't raise me right, saying if I wasn't going to do it with enthusiasm she wasn't going to give me a dowry. I was offended. Should I try to work this out, or is it too dangerous?
2007-05-06 18:58:39 · 7 answers · asked by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 in Business & Finance ➔ Small Business
Apart from the fact that she shouldn't be hounding you, she shouldn't be trying to defraud the benefit system either.
If she is earning then she shouldn't be claiming, morally and legally. I personally wouldn't be condoning that or being part of her little scheme.
The fact that she "came out of nowhere" and said that stuff about your parents sums it up for me - that was pretty low and it sounds like she's trying to use you. Don't let her. With your work and kids you have enough going on by the sounds of things.
Make a point of not letting her see that she is getting to you. Explain calmly and rationally that you can't spare the time as "your family is the most important thing". I wonder how much she'll be in touch after that.
I'm so sorry, it's a sad situation. Look after yourself and your family. You can live without that dowry, right?
2007-05-06 19:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My first thought is - do you know if this woman really is your birth mother? If you posted online that you are looking to find your birth mother and listed an e-mail address, this may be someone preying on that interest to take advantage of you.
There are income limits from Social Security, but the problem is - why would anyone turn down a great income just to keep their Social Security? If you made $1200 a month on SSI, and you were going to make $2000, would you care that your additional income would be reduced? It will revert if your income drops I believe. I'd contact the SSI department where you live and see if you can't verify her story on benefits. And to my knowledge, no school in Oregon is selling organic items in the schools - or cooking with them. If they were, it wouldn't be through an online and unknown vendor. We have a lot of certified organic farms here (Oreganic
Good luck - you're welcome to e-mail me if I can be of more help with Oregon information.
(double posting because question asked in two categories)
2007-05-07 05:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by An Oregon Nut 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you even known this woman? It's probably best to wait, and see all the material first hand, before you do something as rash as signing on to something you can't get out of.
In my opinion, go see the business yourself, to see if it's actually what she says it is. Any business has risks, and naming yourself the president, it could be that she just wants to avoid the damages. Plus if she starts using insults about your parents and other things, ask yourself if she's the type of person you would want to be working with in a business dealing.
2007-05-06 19:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't touch it with a 10 foot pole. I'm adopted to, and if my birth mother came out of nowhere and started treating me like that, I wouldn't have it...how dare her, it's your life. You were raised just fine, she's your mother biologically but that's it..she sure as hell isn't acting like a mother in the least. Be nice and supportive, but don't lose yourself in her fleeting, selfish desires.
2007-05-06 19:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by Alexis 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a rule I don't get involved with any plans that force me to "sell my state" and not because I don't have the authority.
2007-05-06 19:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I met my real father when 21, but my real mother wouldnt show herself.
2016-07-28 00:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it sounds to good to be true than it probably is.
2007-05-06 19:02:39 · answer #7 · answered by rougerocker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋