Answer this then! I asked about toddler tantrums, this is for all the know it alls that answered.?

Question

You all answered with yes it annoys me when toddlers throw tantrums, it is unacceptable,. alright then geniuses tell me your magic way to make them stop, imagine you are smack in the middle of shopping, your trolley is almost full, and all of a sudden they ask for something, you say no, they start screaming and carrying on, What do you magicaly do to make them stop.
And ignoring them isnt an option because you have all said how inconsiderate it is to just let them go.

I thought i put my question into different categories to get different point of veiws and it turned out that two of them went into the same category, Sorry about that : )

Answer 1

don't get so upset at people on here. You have asked about this 6 times. We are just regular people. Many on here are teens that know nothing of raising children. Ask your child's pediatrician your questions instead of a variety of kids, adults, single people, married people, old people, etc. on here.

My answer is, when my 2 would have a tantrum in the grocery store I would immediately leave my cart [trolley] and go to my car with my child. If they got quiet in a couple of minutes we would go back in the store. If they kept up the tantrum we went home, giving the child as little attention as possible. I would just sit there and look out the window or rummage thru my purse while they yelled.

My mother's idea when I was a child was to throw a cup of water in my face. The doctor told her to try it. She said I never did it again.

Answer 2

I have 7 step children 21 neices and nephews and had the care of much younger sibs from the time they were born when I was a teen.

You start way before the outing to the store. You tell the child. if you want to go you must mind me and not make any fuss. I will buy you 1 cereal ,you like, 1 small toy and 1 piece of candy.

When you get to the store take the child by the hand and let the child help and be part of the team. When u go to the veggie isle lift the child and say "What would you like?" get some of the fruit and veggie the child wants. pick them up one at a time and let the child put them into the plastic. next go to the bakery and request a sample small cookie for the child. Say " you are being so very helpfull, you have earned this cookie--give the cookie. In meat, show the hot dogs and explain that a chilcken will be soup, and salad and tenders. Remind the child he likes that. get some tuirkey hot dogs and show the child.

In the dairy have the child point to the kind of milk to remind mommie.. Then have the child choose the ice crean ; show the pictures on the front of 3 kinds and let the child pick the preference. In canned goods again show the pics
same in pakages. Now, go pick the toy. Show 3 maybe 4 choices. the child picks, then say we just need to get the paper plates, tp and other house stuff , then we get the candy and go home. do it quickly. let the child carry the toy

go to checkout pick the candy put toy in basket and give the candy to the child
have credit card ready and go quickly. When you get to the car, put child in carseat and say you are going right home to have lunch feed the lunch immediately and put child down for nap. After nap give the toy
for me, only one nephew age 6 at the time threw a tantrum I left the cart in the aisle and went home ; he was on restriction for the whole weekend . no tv , no eating with the family , no desert , no outside . he got my message no more problems ever. I love children and I believe those acting out do not proper parenting and the parent needs help. I went back at night and got the groceries after another adult came home. If you need help get a sitter.

Answer 3

Don't bribe your child. It only takes once for a child to learn that a tantrum will result in a lollipop. Don't spank or hit your child. Unless when he punches a kid in the face in 5th grade you are willing to let it slide. Don't walk away. If you give up what you are doing, the child will will the battle. Don't ignore the child. Other people have to endure the tantrum and that's just not pleasant for anyone. How about starting at the beginning and instituting a consequence for every action.
Good or bad. If you ever give in, you have lost the battle and your chances of taming an irrational toddler are nil. If you say no, mean no. I have found that losing a cherished toy or item of clothing is the best defense. You have to be firm. If he throws a tantrum he loses his favorite stuffed bear. If his behavior improves he gets the bear back. If it doesn't the bear goes in the trash and is gone forever. It sounds harsh but punishment is more effective when tempered with reasoning.

Also, are you embarrassed by the tantrum? If you are then the problem lies squarely are your feet. My nephew knows exactly how to embarrass his mom into doing what he wants!

Answer 4

As I said before, abandon your cart. I know it's not a fun or convenient thing to do, and it's going to annoy you, but it's going to work.

Do not hit your child! Your frustrated words will be wounding enough for the little one to commit to long-term memory.

As you leave the store, tell the child why you are leaving. As you get to the car, start explaining that the tantrum was not acceptable and that you are not going to allow him/her to act that way in the store. On the way home, you can talk to the child about what is acceptable behavior in the store.

For example, you could say, "It's okay to ask for something, but if I say no, then I mean it, and you should stop asking." Express that tantrums will always result in either leaving the store, which you are far from happy to do, or the child staying at home instead of going to the store next time.

This is not to say that you should never buy your child anything asked for. You just shouldn't give in to every whim, and only you could possibly know what the cutoff price is for you. Further, it is fine to bargain with your child so long as he still understands who makes the purchasing decisions within the family.

I sometimes, if I sense a tantrum about to erupt, will talk my child out of whatever she's asking for to offer an alternative choice. If that choice isn't good enough I add, "Well, we can either leave right now, or you can take what I've offered: the choice is yours."

I think it's important to let the child make that decision. If you've abandoned a cart before, the child will stop to think about what it was like for him to leave the store like that the last time. It will seem unpleasant.

Answer 5

I make my toddler sit in the seat in the trolley, as it gives me a little bit more control over her behaviour.

I have received a few dirty looks as I a force a rather uncooperative 2 year old to sit in the seat, but once she is sitting there she is usually better behaved. Trolley tantrums are usually less severe than running around the supermarket ones.

You could try a pre-arranged treat, that you leave in the car. ie: you say before going shopping, if you are a good boy/girl while we are shopping you can have this treat when we finish and if they play up while you are shopping you can remind them of your deal and the treat waiting for them.

I try not to give into my daughter despite what others may think of my parenting skills, although very embarassing and stressful I have let her make a noise rather than give in.

Goodluck! there is no easy answer, I think people must block out the trauma of having a 2 year old once their children grow out of it. I think my 2 year old is more difficult than my 4 year old was at the same age, but I am sure she probably isn't, it just seems worse while you are going through it, I can't wait until she turns 3.

Answer 6

I'm sorry! I missed out on your original question, but I'd like to help if I can. There is no magic potion to make them stop in the scenario you described. It begins in the home! They must know two things: 1} Throwing a tantrum is the surest way to NOT get what they want. And 2} When you say no, you mean it; Never EVER give in once you've said no! Hope this is helpful and you know what? It annoys me too, but that's just a part of life. Some people just like to complain too much!!!

Answer 7

Ignore the tantrum entirely - walk away. Try this at home first. Chances are they are gonna follow you to the room you left to, leave that one too. Let them cry and scream themselves to sleep if you must. Keep as calm as you can, don't let them know they are getting you upset. Do this over and over again - let them figure out they aren't going to get the attention they are after. No reward of your attention then. At least for the tantrum. I think each of my kids did it a couple of times, then they got the drift.

In the stores when they got to the point of understanding - if they threw a fit or misbehaved in the store, then they knew that mommy would walk around longer. Whether I needed to or not. Their punishment was doing something they did not want to do - SHOP. They tease me about this now if we are in the store and they want to go. One of them will say to the other, better knock it off or Mom is gonna make us stay for eternity.....at least they always knew that I was in charge of the situation not them.

Answer 8

I would take the trolley to the checkout counter immediately, check out and get baby out of the store. Shoppiing trip over for today.

My answer to the other question wasn't about what to do if they have a tantrum. It was about the crying babies do when they are tired and want their nap. Babies do that. Every Mom knows that type of cry. And Mom should respond by taking baby home as soon as she can. Not sitting and chatting with friends, talking on & on into her cell phone, etc.

Answer 9

My chance is consistently to only depart. I do not imply cross examine out, permit the tantrum maintain, then depart. I imply LEAVE proper then and there. It does not subject in case you have spent two hours looking and feature a basket complete. You can consistently return later and do it over. You have got to be inclined to only stroll out, depart the basket there, and take the little one house. If you think that that is imposible it's much more likely for the reason that you do not desire to move by way of the situation of doing it in every single place once more and that is extra of a egocentric cause than whatever. I handiest had to do this ONE time with my youngsters. After that, all I have got to do is speak "by way of my tooth" in the event that they begin appearing up and inform them to "give up now or we're leaving" and so they give up. On the opposite hand I had been in a main issue with my two 12 months historical daughter in which she refused to take a seat within the buckled seat. She screamed and cried and I refused to supply in to her. I needed to do what I was once doing and I did not have an choice to depart at the moment. It was once demanding to me and to others however, individually, I could alternatively see a dad or mum lett he little one throw their are compatible and no longer supply in to them than see a dad or mum bend over backwards, supply in to the little one simply to hold them quiet out of worry of what every person else will feel. We forget about tantrums at house for the reason that that's the way you get them to give up. So typically we HAVE to disregard the tantrums in public as good for the reason that we are not able to consistently supply a rats at the back of what every person else thinks.

Answer 10

what worked for me is to either:

1. ignore them (it really works wonders if you are consistent with it

2. pick them up and leave the store(they are shocked by the sudden change in circumstance

3. a good smack on the backside followed by either 1 or 2(as a last resort which means I rarely did it which means they knew I meant business)

but the best thing you can do for a toddler is to teach them at home how to properly behave when your outside....dont wait until your in the store with a trolley full of shopping and everyone else is standing there starting and silently cursing you and your kid.....if they are old enough to ask for something they are old enough to expect a negative answer and learn to deal with it...my opinion