am I a good husband?

Question

some say Im not but I know that I am so should I confront them or just ignore the little snots?

I Knew that I was, just needed a pat on the back.
Thanks
cheers!

Answer 1

Probably best to ask your wife, as she is the only one with first hand experience.

Answer 2

Hi Dear !

U cant walk blindly with others advise. U r mature enough to get urself judged. Life had made u do many mistakes out of which u had learned a lot and r now quite a experienced person to judge the world.

Regarding how good a h'band u r - i can say a few words of praise during hard times of ur family will make ur bad or good. To ur family and relations, be a good friend. Support them in their bad phase of life and stood by side with them at every moment. They should not feel that u r out of their reach.
They c u as their role model. Try to convince that what they r doing is right or wrong citing the reasons u faced.

Dont forget that a wrong deed of a family member hurts everyone in the family and a good deed keeps everyone happy. Life is very short, hence try to b happy and keep others happy.

Dont just be a good husband / try to be a good person. As good h'band means for a family or a group but whereas a good person means to whole world.

Answer 3

I think one of the most important questions to ask yourself is if you think your wife thinks you are a good husband. Better yet, ask her. Start a real conversation where she feels comfortable talking to you about it. Also, you need to ask yourself why these other people think that you arent a good husband... it is easy to look at yourself and only see the good, but not things that need to change. Sit down and write a list of the things that you feel you are doing right, and do some soul-searching and ask yourself what you could change or do better.
If you are honest with yourself, you will find ways you could improve. Everyone could do with a little change.
Dont confront these people, open a conversation with them... just talk to them and ask them what it is they dont like about your actions as a husband. Dont get defensive or interrupt. Let them have their say. It will be very hard, but you will get a rare opportunity to hear what people see from outside the marriage. They may have some very valid points, or some that are way off. But afterwards, thank them for their honesty and tell them that you appreciate it. Some things they say may not have any real bearing on the truth, but it will show a maturity and an openess to change/get better and work on your marriage. Compare your notes on what they say to what your wife says, and what you have written down on your list.
I know this may sound real way off, but it works. I was married once before, and when it went south and we divorced, I spent the next couple years blaming her for everything. When I met my current wife, I knew that I wanted it to work... she is everything to me and I did not want to risk losing her. I sucked up my piggish pride and did the impossible. I talked to my ex and asked her to write down the things that she felt I was lacking in to be a better husband. I also asked my friends and family the same thing. My ex was just recently engaged, and she asked me to do the same thing for her. When we exchanged our letters, it was a huge eye-opener for both of us. It turns out that neither one of us was perfect, and some of the things that our friends and family thought were not even on either of our lists. Now my ex has a wonderful marriage to her new husband, and my marriage is going splendidly. The open and honest conversation that we shared may be the best thing that has ever happened to us, and it has made us better spouses.
I really wish you all the best of luck.

Answer 4

well, what do you do wrong? do you hit your wife? do you get drunk alot? are you abusive? have you ever cheated? if youre not, then just ignore them. If you're none of the above then you're a great husband! I'm not trying to be mean and sorry if this came out wrong but tis true. Why do people think that you're a bad husband? Think about it.

Answer 5

If you're this curt in your realationship with your wife, I would say, probably not...

Do you put her before all others? Do you do the best you can for her earthly and spirtual needs? Like attention, enjoying her enjoyment of what she loves?... It's pretty strong to have several people say that you're not.

A moment for reflection....

Answer 6

well since u think ur a good husband then u shouldn't worry about but u know i'd confront those people to get their side of the story

Answer 7

If you are providing for your wife, not cheating on her, spend time with her, and you dont insult her....chances are you are a great husband! So ignore all the haters out there. Be good!

Answer 8

sugar, ignore them; u know the truth and that's what is important...bein a good husband is subjective; every1 has an opinion on what's involved...besides, how would they know anyway (unless they're around u 24/7)?

Answer 9

If you confront them, than it shows others you are questioning yourself. If you are truly a good husband, you would no care what they tink. So don't let em see you sweat.

Answer 10

Tell us what you do as a husband and then we will know. Not enough info for us to decide.