do you think 19 is too young to be a mom?

Question

i was just wondering if people think 19 is too young to be a mom..even if you have financial stability and are mature enough?

Answer 1

I think if your having a baby and your 19, it does not matter if your to young or not, because your going to be a mother anyways. I was at 18, I did just fine.

Answer 2

How do you have financial security at 19?

A job does not equal financial security.

I had my first child two months after I turned 19. It has been a long, hard, stressful 23 years. Now, 23 years later I have had 5 children and have gone back to school.

It can be done - but I don't recommend it.

My advice is to go to college and get a career - not just a job. Save some money - buy a house and really be ready. Because even if you do all of this - it will still be a hard road. Raising kids will be the best joy you will ever feel but like I tell my kids - there is a hard way to do things and there is a harder way to do things. There is no easy road but there are things you can do to make it easier.

Answer 3

I had my first child at 17, my second at 19 and my 3rd at 27..

I thought I was mature and I was financially stable, I still did a HUGE amount of growing up and maturing well into my 20's... After having my 3rd at 27 I realized how much more I had to offer her that I didn't have to offer the other two... From a more in depth life experience pool to draw from, to a less arrogant attitude..

I have never regretted having my children, but if I could do it all over again I would wait until I was 25 or a bit older to have the first...

Answer 4

There are many answers to this question. I had my son at 19. I did fine, but wish that I had some more youthful time to be irresponsible before the reality of motherhood hits. One person said if the father sticks around. The chances of that happening in this day is slim to none. If you are considering having a baby at 19 you had better make sure you are capable of doing it on your own...it is a huge responsiblity...do I have regrets...no...my boys are 17 & 15..niether have been in trouble with the law or gotten into drugs so I have a success story. Many do not though. Don't jump into this without some serious thought. It can be so overwhelming at times. If you still have a choice I would wait a few more years...have fun...be a kid yourself and make sure you have all that out of your system before you have to raise your own child. Good luck.

Answer 5

The real question to be asked is not one of age but one of maturity. If you are mature enough, and trust me it will come out if you are not, than no 19 is not too young. You have to be ready and able to put your life aside for what is best for your child, at all costs! Even if it means not seeing your friends as much or going out to the party where everyone is at, trust me being a parent is a lot of work if you take it seriously. Truth be told that you won't trully know the answer to this question until you are faced with it! Once your child is brought into this world only then will you know if you are ready to do it. My advisce would be to wait until you know you have a partner that is going to stick with you through thick and thin, there are to many single parents out there, myself included. Its not something that should be done alone!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Are you married? You'll have that child for 18 years. If you are already expecting then it is too late anyway. Two wrongs don't make a right. If your not, and not married, wait till you find the right person and then have a child. There is nothing wrong with being a young mother. Just make sure you are thru living your own life and ready to start living life for someone else. If you are, you make sure you make the right choice on rather or not 19 is too young to have a child.

Answer 7

I got pregant at the age of 19 and married my sons dad, I am now 37, married for 17 years with 3 children. Being a mom is the hardest but most rewarding job you can ever have. Just remember that being a mom means looking out for your baby 1st, having to do without so your child can have what they need and want, when all your friends are out partying you can't just drop being a mom, worrying when your child is hurt or sick and having very little or no sleep at times. I grew up with my son, we had and have the best times, it is great being one of the younger moms but it wasn't always fun. I have no regrets and if I had a chance to do it over I wouldn't change a thing! My son is now almost 17 with a driver's license, he is a good kid and an honor student, I love him with all my heart and we have a great relationship. I can't believe it went by so fast. I was and am lucky that I had a supportive family that helped me out and supported me, you need to have a support system in place, that makes a big difference.

Answer 8

It just depends on the person. If you are stable financially, have a home and a good husband to be the father that helps a lot. You have to decide if you are ready to be a mother which is a big commitment. It doesn't matter your age but it would be easier for you if you were older and wiser.

Really, I feel no one is really ever truly ready to be a mother the first time. The longer you wait, the more prepared you will be.

I was 20 when my first daughter was born and she is wonderful.

Answer 9

My sister in law had her child at 19, and she and her husband don't regret it at all. They actually wonder why people wait to have children so long. The child is 6 now, so maybe later they will regret it, but so far, they love it!
I think that you have to be ready to sacrifice everything, completely change your life. If you won't mind giving up all your friends, you spare time, and restful nights of sleep, then ya, than a 19 year old can be a good mom.

Answer 10

No, I don't think 19 is too young to be mom. I think it's a beautiful thing if you're married and your husband is a decent person at heart. The world has gotten away from what is decent and truthful. Being married, 19, and a mom is what God would want, so I say if you're going to get married, go for it.