My husband's family beliefs in one religion, and has been actively participating in events. I'm a free thinker when I married him. My parents beliefs in another religion. Now I start to get annoyed because he thinks i should follow his belief and his parents will not be happy if I join my parents in thier religion. I don't really like his religion but I don't object his activities but if I decided to join my parent's belief, he will not like it. What should I do?
2007-05-06 16:20:53 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This shouldn't be about your parents, your husband or his family. You need to practice what you believe. Religion is a very sensitive subject. Only you know what is truly in your heart. Follow that!
2007-05-06 16:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to follow what you beleive. Did they know all of this before you got married? Did he? If he did and they did them they accepted you like you are. Don't do things because someone else wants you to. Would you jump off a bridge if everyone else did?(Seriously?) If religion is putting that much of a strain on your marriage then maybe there is something else going on. Why is his parents or your parents so involved? You and him are the ones that are married. (yes, I know family comes along with it) He should be alright with you no matter, you are husband and wife and that is what marriage is about. Two people willing to support eachother no matter what.
2007-05-06 23:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by CaseyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what do you believe? I can't believe you guys never talked about this before getting married especially since it sounds like religion is very important to him and you come from different backgrounds. I think you need to have this talk now and figure out what to do. I don't know if there is any kids involved but for their or any future kids sake you need to figure this out. Find a way you can except the others beliefs and live together.
2007-05-06 23:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by binemaeuschen22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big Pappa got it right. These are things you discuss BEFORE you get married not after. Religion is a huge factor in relationships. It's a little late for him not to like your religion and his parents are not the ones to decide for you as an individual. You have put yourself into a position that will continue to create problems. Only you can decide where you are going from here. Good luck.
2007-05-06 23:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
religion is about what you feel. maybe you haven't found one you are comfortable with. whatever your decision your husband should accept it, he made that promise to you the day you were married. If he can't accept that then he is not the right person for you. As far as his parents are concerned don't worry what they think of you be yourself. If you are yourself no matter what you do your parents will love you. I'm sure you have learned that your parents always love you no matter what. So if your husband loves you and your parents love you why does it matter if his parents love you. Anyways, Good Luck! Remember, if people can't love you for who you are why should you waste your time trying when you know you are a good person.
2007-05-06 23:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by turttlebert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find your own beliefs and truths and stop trying to follow anyone else's. You need to grow a backbone and tell them all that you are not a puppy dog looking to please them.
Participating in social events at either your husband's church or your parents church does not constitute conversion to their religion. It's just a social activity.
2007-05-06 23:26:06 · answer #6 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really should have addressed this before you married. This can actually break apart your marriage to marry out of your faith. You are finding first hand why churches teach you to not do it. If you cannot get him to understand why you need your religion to meet your spiritual needs, then you will have serious issues.
2007-05-06 23:25:11 · answer #7 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Religion is a touchy subjuct, especially when dealing with 2 different ones. I would recommend compromising. Have him explain to you what his beliefs are and you explain what your beliefs are to him. A lot of religions have many simularities, and it is about finding common ground
2007-05-06 23:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by darthdawson 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the two religions..for example,if u are a buddhist and he isa muslim..thats bad. cos its as different as earth to sky.but if u dnt have any say in the above try following ur religion and respect ur husbands.at least pretend to follow his religion.dont try to break away.cos if u do it ll create problems within ur family life.so support him with his and within follow urs.
2007-05-07 00:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by simplyred 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The joys of being unequally yoked. Just remind him that when you went into this marriage, you married him, not his religion. And because of that, you have to choose your own path. But butter it up and tell him that that path may eventually lead to his religion, but it may not.
2007-05-07 00:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋