I had a relationship that ended nearly a year ago and it was not on my terms. The thing is, I miss him very much and I am still hurting. He on the other hand seems to care less about me. I know this because when I tried to tell him how I felt, he did not respond to me at all. This was my first real relationship and it was serious. I just can't understand how even though he ended things for reasons, he doesn't even miss me. I feel he probably does not even think about me. It just hurts very much. I try so hard to move on, but I just wish he showed some remorse or regret, or sadness. How do people just move on?
2007-05-06 16:03:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know how you are feeling. Seeing how this was your first real relationship your feelings are very raw and real. Sometimes we hold on the the good times that we had not remembering the bad times that were there. He ended the relationship and obviously is saying that he does not love you. For what ever reason who knows. I think some people are better at stuffing their feelings than others and moving on. Talk to a friend or someone at church or at a counselors office about your feelings. After some time doing that you will be in better shape then you ex because you are not stuffing any remorse. Believe me he feels it, he is just not showing it.
2007-05-06 16:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by renee125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People move on because they didn't have the same vested interest in the relationship. It's just that simple no matter how much it hurts. You may also be involved with someone that you don't feel as much for and end it knowing that you can move on more easily at some point in your dating career. Don't continue to try to figure out why someone didn't get you, find someone who does. You just chose the wrong person. It's nothing personal....just the wrong mix. We all have those and live and learn.
2007-05-06 23:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be strong and let it go before it consumes your life and you miss out on the perfect relaionship with someone else. maybe you do need to talk to someone other then us. It really sounds like you want to realize what he let go that you want some type of justification or closeur. You have to let go and I hate to say it, but it sounds like to thought the relationship was more then what it was. You are not the first or will not be the last. You can't help who you love or not want the type of relationship you want with who you want it with. It is just you wanted everything you had but the other person did not want the same thing. that is how it happens sometimes. You have to move on, especially if you expressed your feelings and he done nothing, then it is over. Sorry
2007-05-06 23:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by CaseyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you're feeling and the toll it takes on your heart. I know this may be hard to believe, but trust me, time will lessen the pain you are still feeling. As far as trying to analyze or understand why he has been able to move on, it's a waste of energy and you can drive yourself crazy wondering why his feelings for you weren't deeper. He wasn't the right man for you. You deserve someone who has more depth of character. He is most likely incapable of truly loving someone, so he remains detached. You don't want someone like that do you? As for moving on, you just take it one day at a time, stay busy, do what makes you feel good about yourself and consider it his loss and that it's a blessing in disguise that he is out of your life. It wasn't meant to be.
2007-05-06 23:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
beleave it or not its easier for men to move on quicker because they can hide thier emotions allot easier than women, but also men seem today that once they get enough of you and it becomes a routine they want out to go to something new, not always better but something new , i wish i could explain further more but im not like that myself im still with my first marriage of 20 yrs now so im sorry and i wish you the best
2007-05-06 23:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds wierd but you just do. Get out of the house, meet new people. Talk to friends and go out on dates. I know it is hard but it will get better...you just have to try.
2007-05-06 23:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go talk to a therapist to find out why you are hanging on to this when it's been a year......it's over, he's moved on yet you have wasted a year of your precious life obsessing about it....there are plenty of other fish in the sea...ones that actually will mesh with your personality and lifestyle and beliefs.......he is over you....
2007-05-06 23:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it hurts.before you decide to move on ask him for one last time.if he still doesn't want to,you have to move on.donot jump into the next ,wait for a while,decide what you want in life,and then proceed.good luck,trust in god.
2007-05-06 23:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by alec. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋