I'm 19 years old college student who's lonely, depressed, overweight and i don't have no friends. i feel like this every day but, i'm not those kind of people who consider hurting people cause i don't. i just don't know what to do, please help me solve these issues. i'm always like this and i don't show any emotion but deep inside i do. so help me please.
2007-05-06 15:43:42 · 11 answers · asked by luis s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No one can help you but you. Evidently you want to change. You just need help in knowing how to proceed. First of all get help for the depression. Some colleges offer psychological counseling, or talk to your parents about seeing a doctor. You may need an antidepressant.
The second thing you need to do is start on a diet. Stop eating junk food, fast food and pizza. Also, beer is very fattening and isn't good for you anyway, so no beer. Start a regular exercise program. Your school probably has a gym where you can work out. Do it every day. I know it's hard, but like I said, you have to help yourself. Weigh and write it down and weigh regularly. When you are able to see progress, you'll feel much better about yourself.
Take pride in your appearance. Don't dress like a bum. And smile at people. If you're depressed your body language automatically tells people to stay away from you. Be open and friendly. Don't hole up in your dorm. Sit outside some everyday. Go to school events, even if you have to go by yourself. Study in the library just to get out among your fellow students.
Don't be afraid to strike up a conversation with someone now and then. Everyone there feels a little lonely and out of place.
Above all, take advantage of the great opportunity that you have before you. Do you know that only 20% of the population goes on to college? Concentrate on your studies and get as much out of school as you can. Try to see the good in things rather than feeling sorry for yourself. Just try to be the best person you can be. Change the things that you don't like about yourself that you can change, and learn to live with the things you can't. Nobody's perfect. Try helping others who are less fortunate than you.
If none of this works for you, consider going home and attending a local community college for a year or two. Maybe you're just not ready to be away from home. College can be the best time of your life, but if you're miserable something is wrong. I probably sound like your mother, so I'll hush now. It's just that my heart goes out to you. Good luck to you.
2007-05-06 16:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you are depressed and lonely as well as being overweight.
If you are a new college student, everyone is feeling depressed and lonely, that is a typical reaction to being away from home.
Please go to a counselor on campus and one of your profs to find some counseling and support. Most college campuses have counselors available for anyone who needs some help and support and a willing listener.
You can work on your emotional health first and then work on changing your diet and workout more in order to attain and maintain a more healthy weight.
I am glad to hear that you are not going to hurt others, but you are hurting yourself by not getting help.
Reach out to a few of your classmates or roommates, they are struggling also, although you may not think so to look at them. When I was away from my home for the first time when I was studying for my undergraduate degree, many of us were depressed and lonely, and we all did a lot better when we started reaching out to each other for support.
I still have some friends that I made during those times, and that was many years ago. Please, please ask for help, reach out and you will feel better.
I am sending you a big hug, and a prayer so that you will know that you are not alone. I have two grown children of my own now, and they have had their struggles over the years, even though they had the total support of their father and I.
I am sure that your family loves you and wants the best for you too.
I will say a prayer for you health and well-being. Have a good night. You are not alone.
2007-05-06 17:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many people from all walks of life that feel the same way that you do, It is even harder if you go to a college, away from home.Try little steps at a time, like smiling at people that you pass by during the day, maybe join a club, or volunteer a few hours a week, at the library etc, were you have to talk to people. If you feel that your weight is an issue, start doing something about it, you can walk if nothing else or go to a gym, just get out there. Loneliness, and depression seem to be an epidemic these days, I almost think, they should start support groups, where people can gather and get to know one another. I wish you well.
2016-05-17 07:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by inocencia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I`m glad to hear you don`t hurt people.You know there`s and old saying,you can lose weight but ugly is to the bone.So your over weight find something to do to lose some pounds or take a good look at your self and really ask your self if that's a bad thing you can be happy skinny or heavy.Depression can be corrected too Talk to a counselor or some one who deals with this problem.Get out and go to places where there are others,church,libraries,clubs at school.Join a club that you are interested in,you will find others there that are interested in the same thing.Get up and get busy and I hope you will feel better.God Bless.
2007-05-06 15:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
College should be an awarding experience..by the way you're explaining yourself..you may be suffering from depression and this may prevent you from meeting new people. Try to talk to your parents or an older mentor. This may save a lot of hurt.
Best of luck.
2007-05-06 15:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think that you should try to keep in contact with your family. and its not a bad thing to be lonely it seems like to me the more friends you have the more problems you have and your in school and you dont need that i would just focus on school and maybe join some clubs at school and try to make time to get out more often to meet new people
2007-05-13 18:14:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm this is not some issue we can solve with some text.
It depends on how severe it is counseling may be the best way to go.
But I want you to know the solution is in your hands.
2007-05-06 15:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by Slim 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hay tust me i know depression SUCKS but i think the only reson people aren't even trying to help you is beacuse no one knows that your depressed. But much respect for hiding it and not harming anyone. But still someone has got to know that your depressed and why and someone will most likly help you out.
2007-05-14 08:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by michael s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a gym and also go in a health diet. You'll meet new healthier people too, and maybe someone Will hit on you.
2007-05-06 15:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
May be yoou need to see your doctor and let them adress your problems.
2007-05-14 06:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by Tivas Tivas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋