if he gave you the choice of when he says i dont want you to wear make up and earings and if you dont do it he will leave you because he doesnt like make up and that on you and didnt feel comfortable when you wear it because he loves the natural you.
what would you choose and why?
2007-05-06 15:41:39 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Makeup
OUCH. That's terrible. Try to work things out, he can't be threatening you like that.
2007-05-06 15:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by AnGeL 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's really nice that he loves the natural you, but he should also love you being comfortable. and if for you being comfortable means wearing a little makeup (NO one likes a ton of makeup), and some pretty earrings, then you should be able to when you feel like it. you could try compromising, and not wearing makeup around him...but you are an individual and you make the decisions about your body and your face and your ears. no one else. if he really will/does leave you for wearing a little make up and some earrings, well then, honey, you're much better off. things like that can turn ugly, because it becomes a control issue. if he can get you to stop wearing make up and earrings with the threat of leaving you, what else will you do? he will keep pushing you (maybe) and threatening to leave you every time he wants his way. the more you give in, the less you will be YOU--and there is someone out there who will appreciate you and love you no matter what. go find him.
good luck!
2007-05-06 16:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Laur 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, well that depends - was it an aggressive ultimatum from a control freak. The way it sounds in your question or was it an awkward attempt at a compliment with some truth interwoven.
Is it really insulting to tell a woman you prefer her natural beauty to that which comes from a product? The ear rings are a little strange though, is this a religious thing for him?
If you've been with him a long time and he's not a control freak then I'd talk with him about it some more and see how you feel afterwards. Unless you have some overwhelming passion for makeup in which case I'd dump him.
2007-05-06 15:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Nyle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's a little harsh (when i say a little i mean a lot). Think about what your most comfortable wearing. Do you feel more confident in make-up, if you do explain to him and if he doesn't accept you for being yourself dump him. But if you feel as pretty without make up you could use less. I would be tempted not to completely stop wearing make-up because the guy would think that he had complete control over me and that's never good because you don't want things to turn nasty.
Talk to him and come up with a compromise, if he doesn't agree keep the make-up but lose him for good, Don't let him get you down.
2007-05-09 03:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by scary fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think here there is two possible situations going one. Situation 1 is that you wear way too much make up and it doesn't look very good. I don't mean that to sound offensive but a lot of girls do tend to think more make up is better and it isn't always the case. However given that he doesn't want you wearing earring either mekes me think situation 2 is more likely. Situation 2 being that yor boyfriend sounds like the jealous type and wants to avoid all possibility of you getting attention from other guys. It seems a bit stupid your boyfriend being so black and white about this, you should be able to comprimise a bit like wearing less make up, or not wearing it when you are just with him, but even then I think this is his problem not yours. It isn't up to him to dictate how you dress.
2007-05-07 01:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Wee Scottish Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it's a compliment for him to like you better natural but if he loves you then he wouldn't make you feel like you have a choice between wearing make-up or being with him. I had an ex that didn't like me hanging out with certain friends that I had had for years before I met him and so I hardly ever got to see them. But now he is not in my life and my friends still are so I don't let guys tell me what to do.
2007-05-10 15:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Martin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend always tells me that I am pretty with or without makeup. I love that about him. What woman would not be flattered by having the man in her life telling her that he always finds her beautiful?
However, I would not stand for any man telling me what I can or cannot do with my own body! If any boyfriend of mine ever told me that I couldn't wear makeup or jewelry because he preferred me without it, I would tell him to find himself a new girlfriend! Nobody has the right to control another person. I would definitely choose to end the relationship because this is clearly just the beginning of his controlling ways and I am not any man's property!!
2007-05-07 04:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by Sophie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was persistent, then I would say sod off you controlling freak! I will wear what I want if it makes me feel comfortable....if you dislike it soooo much, fook off!!!
When you met, was you wearing a lil slap - did you have your face-on (make-up)???
If yes, then you are obviously an attractive person without it, but he feels insecure that you would attract another person whilst you were wearing cosmetics!
He obviously loves you for you, but he does not want you attracting anyone else, because you're even more gorgeous wearing make-up! So he is telling you not to wear it, because he loves you when you are au naturel and loathes the idea of another being attracted to you!
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2007-05-06 16:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if i did wear make up id take it as a compliment that he thought i looked better without makeup. i may tone down the make as it could mean the i also look too madeup. however i dont wear make up so u kno. but EAR RINGS!!!!! goodbye brother what the hell has earrings got to do with anything. what i would say is u met me with these things so why r u looking to change me. have i tried to change u in any way.
2007-05-07 04:10:18 · answer #9 · answered by shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one controls me, I don't see what harm make up does. For starters any guy asking such a request is an idiot, and shows he has low self esteem and can't stand his girl to look good. A moron like that I would dump in a second. It's like saying "I don't want you to wear skirts", which some man do say by the way. Losers!!
2007-05-08 15:18:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful if I were you. Controlling men often become abusive men. Right now it is make up and jewelry but what is next. Maybe he doesn't like your friends or your clothing. Talk to many young girls who have been abused and they will tell you that this is how it started. I don't go for the I like the natural look. Sounds to me like he doesn't want any other men looking at you so he is trying to dress you down a little if you know what I mean. Just be careful and if you like wearing make up then I am sure there are other men out there that won't mind. Please take care of yourself
2007-05-06 15:53:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋