hi i am due today and getting a little bit weery about having a baby,i think it might be just that it is my first and never had a baby before,but i am scared i will not know how to hold him properly or not be able to care for him properly, is this normal in first time pregnancy's?also i am scared of the comments my mum is gonna make about me looking after him as i am only 18 and my partner is 23.
2007-05-06 15:26:54 · 25 answers · asked by trent4kala 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The best advice I have ever been given, is what I continue to share with parents to this day: Trust yourself!
You are born with the skills to be a great parent. You will spend 24 hours a day with your child and will know her better than anyone else (including well meaning grandparents). And, yes, you will know when something is wrong with your child. You may not know what the diagnosis is, but something inside of you will prompt you to call the doctor or seek medical care.
It’s kind of like Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz. She was wearing the ruby slippers the whole time but never realized they had the power to take her home. New parents also wear those ruby slippers. Trust your gut, and you will never feel like you have made a mistake.
2007-05-08 07:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 151⤊ 23⤋
ur baby u make the decisions
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2014-05-11 13:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will do just fine! Everyone is nervous -- it's not because you are only 18. Having a baby is a huge thing. It wouldn't be normal if you weren't nervous! You'll probably be in the hospital a few days, so use this time to ask lots of questions. You'll still have questions when you come home, and you may want to find out what your pediatrician's policy is on answering questions. Our pediatrician's office has call-in hour every morning at 9am. You can call and talk to a doctor without having to leave a message. Your doctor may have something like that. You'll be amazed at how quickly you will become an expert, especially an expert at interpreting exactly what your child needs. Doctors and other people will know lots of facts, but you and your partner will know more about your baby than anyone else!
You'll get lots of advice, but be choosy and follow your instincts.
My best to both of you!
2007-05-06 15:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Liza 6 · 17⤊ 2⤋
Your feelings are normal. Every single mother goes through this at one time or another.
The nurses and the doctors at the hospital will be right there to help you and make sure you are holding him right and feeding him right. They will show you the basics. If you are worried about what your mom might say then talk to her about it. Be honest with her. Tell her you don't want her to put you down if she sees you doing something she considers wrong. Tell her you want her help but you also want to be able to experiance being a mom and learn things on your own.
My mother is still like that. My son is 21 months old and she is always giving me advice on how she thinks I should raise him. I was 20 when I had him. I take what she says into consideration but if I feel it isn't right for me or my son then I do it my way. She gets over it eventually.
You and your partner will do just fine. You will make mistakes but everyone does you are only human. If you need help don't be afraid to ask for it. No one will think you are less of a mother just because you asked for a little help.
Good luck and you will do fine. We have all been where you are.
2007-05-06 15:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Lurinda 5 · 16⤊ 2⤋
its normal to be a little scared, the most important thing you need to do is make sure you are doing your best for the baby. Do not be afraid to ask for help when you are not sure of what to do. If you cannot ask your mum talk to your pediatrician or someone else you trust. If you have specific questions there is a great book out there I believe is called The First Year with Baby again ask the pediatrician, and ask about the book at the hospital many give a copy free. Good Luck!!!
2007-05-06 15:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by tyemnana 3 · 12⤊ 3⤋
thats normal
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2014-05-14 13:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was afraid of the same exact things when I was pregnant with my first and now he's exactly 1 year old. I was almost embarrassed to hold him in fear that someone was thinking that I wasn't "doing it right". It comes naturally and it is the BEST feeling in the world to hold that baby. You will probably cry and cry and cry because in that moment you are holding him....you will be SOOOO overwhelmed with LOVE. It literally will bring you to your knees to feel so much love.
Congrats, you have a lifetime full of love...and a long time of getting no sleep. Enjoy it and never be scared or too proud to ask for some help. The no sleep thing KILLLLS you. You'll understand once you have him/her. Goodness, no sleep sucks but all of the other stuff makes it so much more worth it. And one thing to look forward to....babies are FUNNY. I haven't ever laughed so hard in my life. They are hiliarious once they get out of that "new baby stage".
Good luck and Congrats!!! You have a life of overwhelming love ahead of you. :D
2007-05-06 15:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 15⤊ 2⤋
ur not prego
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2014-05-31 12:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats normal
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2014-05-14 13:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
adoption is the best
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2014-05-07 17:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll be fine. when the time came for me to have my son, i was so scared. shoot, the first time i ever changed his diaper he peed on me and i quickly turned away, leaving him without a diaper for a few. i freaked! it was funny, i've been able to laugh about it ever since.
i was even scared when i left the hospital; they told me i was going to be discharged and my first thought was "you're going to trust me with this perfect, sweet little boy? me? all by myself?"
trust me, you'll be fine. it does come natural, believe it or not. may not seem like it now, but it does. you will look into your baby's face and see someone you would die for; your heart outside your body. and then the rest just is...
good luck. my thoughts are with you!
2007-05-06 16:14:02 · answer #11 · answered by Erin J 3 · 13⤊ 0⤋