i have a theory that peoples behaviour to others stems from there own traits or failings, what say you?

Question

To elaborate, A person who is untrustworthy will tend to treat you as if you were the same. Someone who steals will assume you do too. Someone who fiddles expences at work etc etc I've had experience of this. I'm not claiming to be whiter than white myself but some very privileged people I've met or worked with should never have had the respect or power they appeared to have.

Have you had any similar experiences?

Summer - you're so wide of the mark

What I'm saying is if someone doesn't trust you it's probably because they themselves are un trustworthy simple as that, its got nothing to do with jealousy (note the spelling)

Another example could be a partner is having or has had affairs, they will naturally think you could do the same.

Another. Someone who works in a bar steals from the till takes drinks without paying, you work under them and they will not trust you its a fact of life in my view.

Trustworthy, loyal & honest people are a
rare breed and usually don't make sucessfull business people and it's a great shame in my view.

Got it yet?

It seems most of you have not understood my question, I apologise if I have misled anyone

Answer 1

i don't know, or can't recall right now, but your statement makes alot of sense!

Answer 2

There is nothing new in the way you think, but remember we are only human. Many people can be brilliant at something but it does not make them a saint. Look at Winston Churchill, had terrible times of deep depression, drank too much smoked too much but he got the job done.If people are fiddling their expenses it is probably because they think it is the norm, everyone else does it so why shouldn't I and sometimes it is more difficult to go against the grain. Just be true to yourself, when you put your head on the pillow at night and close your eyes and know that you can live with yourself, that is what counts.

Answer 3

Behaviour to a great extent is inherited or developed during childhood. Child tries to copy parents,his character is moulded/influenced by parents.Education of children is important.The way you treat others is based on your past formative years and subsequent experience .I agree we tend to return what we get.But mature mind prevents the action.Tit for Tat.
I have found that we can change our method of treating others even if they were not fair to me in some way or other.We get what we give.It is difficult to come out of the situation,unless you break the barrier and take a decision that you will be good,irrespective of misdeeds of others.This will work wonders.Good luck

Answer 4

. All living beings,behave normally based on the traits acquired from birth,some heredity,some environment,some acquired,some by self education.The society in which one lives also contribute to these traits, as far as man is concerned. He can change himself unlike other animals which have a fixed pattern of behaviour. We cannot generalise a particular persons behaviour as the mind is ever changing.Your assumptions are not ,therefore, entirely agreeable.

Answer 5

Hate to disappoint you but you might wanna look up the theory of self. it says something like the self is reflected back you in others? But whether you were the first to get it written down or not your obviously still a bright spark for noticing it.

Answer 6

It does seem that people didnt read your question properly. I agree with you totally and there is lots of evidence to back up what you say. People most certainly do judge others by their own standards and it takes a great deal of insight and self reflection to become empathic to people unlike you

Answer 7

It makes some sense, but I don't think it's always true.... Typical non-special needs straight girls - in my experience - try to get you to think like them, if that counts. (e.g. My closest flatmate watches Corrie and Easternders all the time and always talks to me about them... but I don't watch them at all, never have - with a Media Studies topic of study as the exception - and never will! Just one example)

Are you thinking along the lines of 'homophobes tend to be gay themselves?'

Answer 8

I dont think that's necessarily true because i think alot of people steal, but i myself am no thief. I am a germaphobe so i generally walk around and open doors as if everyone is diseased, but i myself am not diseased. I think alot of people lie, ALOT, but i myself dont lie, ALOT. I think alot of people are flaky, but i myself am not flaky. I think there are alot of mean people in orange county, but i myself am not mean. I think that alot of people drive like assholes, but i myself am the safest driver i can be.

So the point in your question peoples behaviors stem from self traits, is not necessarilly a valid argument.

Answer 9

are you jealous of them? you better NOT be cos you would never have the same as they ,because you reject it you understand? you can not ask for anything that you want yourself , if you don't agree with what they have ,its got nothing to do with what THEY have or not have its about your perception on it ,. this issue .. this issue is yours not theres not mine not any one else ,, got it? think you do..your theory is crap & i wouldnt put it on a t-shirt jalousy is most of the time on others a thing that we disire the most,. oureselves so if you are reacting it for them?(how can they be happy with that or act like that or swallow in it) they are no different from you they are the same and if you see that you wouldnt reject so much and would applause because it takes you one step more to the same to get the same if thats your wish... hope you see what i mean cos he I wish every body the best jalousy is NOT in my dictonary... and if you honest you shouldnt have asked this queation ..xx

Answer 10

I BELIEVE IT TOO A CERTAIN EXTENT, BUT SOME OF IT ISN'T QUITE TRUE, A FRIEND OF MINE CHEATED ON HIS GIRLFRIEND BUT THE GIRLFRIEND NEVER EVER CHEATED ON HIM BUT SHE FOUND IT HARD TOO TRUST HIM AFTER THAT, SO WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?