It's too much, i cant have my daughter raised in front of a man that is depressed and angry so he needs to blame everyone else for everything that goes wrong. Nothing I do or say will ever make him happy. verbally abusive and selfish. I need out, now.
2007-05-06 13:24:46 · 27 answers · asked by jmerry22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to the police because leaving with your 15 month old daughter can get you put in jail. That is considered kidnapping. Seek help before it gets too out of control. Good Luck and I wish you all the best.
2007-05-06 13:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Me nutrit Me destruit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask a lawyer. You might get into legal trouble for leaving the state. Plus, if he gets visitation and you live in different states, he will get longer periods of time with your daughter. If you stay close, he'll probably get only a weekend at a time and that would be less at a stretch that your daughter would be exposed to him. There's a lot to think about. Just don't say anything to him because he might go get an order to restrict you to the county that he lives in until your daughter is 18! Think hard before you make a move. If there is truly abuse, make sure you document it. And if it is ever physical, no matter how minor it seems, call the police and make a report. You might need it later.
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2014-09-25 12:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you aren't legally separated or divorced, you could leave, but there is one thing that he can use against you...abandonment. He will say you left him high and dry, and he would be the first to apply for a divorce. You need to go to a lawyer first and get some advice. Lawyers really know the ins and outs of all that stuff. Most lawyers do offer free consultations. After you have spoken to him/her, you can find out if you will be able to leave him without any repocussions. State laws vary, so be careful! You could go to a domestic violence shelter if you feel extremely threatened, too. This will help you prove your case as well.
2007-05-06 13:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by futureteacher0613 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is perfectly ok to leave if it is a danger to the well being of you and your child also keep in mind you have a divine anmal right to defend your life and the life your your young I hope that the daughter is not tainted yet by anything he has said or done just make sure after you get away that you go straight to the police to get a restraining order or else he will be ale to find you and most likly be mad plz email me if you need more advice or need to talk megagmr1@yaho.com I'm so sorry to hear that there are people like him out there still
2007-05-06 13:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by Micky D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is O.K. to leave an abusive relationship. However make a plan, and gather together enough money to see you and your child through for a while. Find a place to go, and plan for getting there. Plan on supporting yourselves for at least a month, until you can get work. Do not tell anyone what your destination is. Inform them that you are leaving when you are gone, and not before.
2007-05-06 13:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES IT IS! If you think you and/or your daughter are in physical danger you can go to the police RIGHT NOW! It may also be possible for you to get a restraining order against him.
If by "out" you mean you want a divorce, then tell him, but if you think he'll react too agressively, then go to a relative's house and tell him over the phone or in person but make sure there are people around...and then you can fight for full custody...
OR if you don't think you and/or your daughter are in immediate physical danger then may be you can convince him to get help...go see a doctor/pyschologist.
2007-05-06 13:35:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. i wish my mom was a smart as you, to want to put her daughter first. my mom is going through the same thing, but she's basically in denial about it all. anyways. it's ok, you cant get in trouble for leaving with your daughter. i mean, you are her mother and you aren't in a safe environment and neither is your daughter. just make sure you let the cops know what's going on after you get out and away from your husband. hope everything works out.
2007-05-07 16:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not OK to just take your child from her father and flee the state, you could be charged with felony interstate kidnapping, which is a Federal offense, and you WILL go to jail if he presses charges.
A better idea would be to contact a divorce lawyer, he should be able to place you both in a safe environment during the proceedings.
After that, it's up to you.
Good luck, and don't do anything drastic.
2007-05-06 14:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's an abusive husband and you can prove it. The only way you MAY be able to leave the state is to hire yourself a very good attorney and follow the proper procedures on domestic violence cases.
2007-05-06 13:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋