my boyfriends not divorced?

Question

ive been with my boyfriend for almost a yr now, he left his wife for me, and the divorce process is taking foreverrr...any advice?

Answer 1

When I met my husband of 3 years now, he was married to another woman, and very unhappy. In fact they both were. However, we did just remain friends, until the divorce was final. Not eveyone believed us, because we did hang out, but we knew were doing the right thing. His divorce took about 4 months, but it was clean cut for both of them. We now have a 7 month old, and couldn't be happier. Trust your instincts, be open and honest with eachother, and if it all works out, then know that the best is yet to come! No one can judge you, for we all have made mistakes, so just do what is right for you.

Answer 2

Before you get married, tell him. Tell him other little junk you think he might want to know. Do not wait until AFTER you are married--it is tricking him. Do not tell him how many men you have been with or that you had an abortion. It is none of his business. But if you used to be a man, or an abortion will prevent you from ever having children, or had an affair when you were with him, or have a dread disease, tell him. The absolute most important thing in a marriage is being able to Communicate without fear. Marrying Your best friend is the best you can do. Marrying anyone is the most important decision you will ever make and being wrong is devastating to your heart, your finances, your confidence and your looks and your children. Be right. Or stay single.

Answer 3

As long as it's in process, it's ok. If it tossed for lack or prosecution, then refile, and hang in there. If he's hurt by all of this, that would be normal. If your family rides you because of his status,. then your in trouble with them, and they will be trouble and a half. My girlfriend, when I was in same boat, was bought off with a new car, and being kept in the will. I'm still alone, two years later, even though I got the divorce, and do not miss the ex. I just haven't had the desire to pursue anyone because of the damage done by the two women and their respective families. Some of my freinds say I've become depressed, could be, but the women both live in Tx and I moved out to Cal to escape the torrent of emotional trouble it has caused me. The woman who was my girlfriend is no longer a person who I could consider a long term prospect. The ex was as cold as frozen fish then, and now, no love lost. If you bail on this guy, at least make sure he deserves it. I was faithful to my girlfriend for over a year after we were forced apart, and I don't know what I'd do if she asked for me to return. He's really out on a limb, maybe out in deeper water than he's ever been in, and on occasion may need some help with the law. If your fighting with his wife, then are you on his side, are you happy to be the other woman.? My girlfriend was very disturbed that she was the other woman. The wife made the divorce hard to obtain. but its is done. Just before the end with my girlfriend she said to me" Fedelity is not loyalty.". It is possible to set up conditions for a relationship that defy the ability of the other to do. Be careful. Don't start raising the bar for the relationship while he's battling his way out of another. Unforseen events can begin to spiral out of control when he feels he has no where to go. My ex called my girlfriends father told him I was a drug dealer, a thief, a violent crazy man. He was a powerful executive of a large multi national, he called my employer, my ex called my employer, and they both told the same story. I became very ill, because of a parasitic infection, and 9 doctors could not cure it, but since I know a lot about medicine, I cured it myself. But by then, I was let go, so I was out of work, and still suffering the effects of this bug, but I cured. The girlfriend was sick with this when I met her, and her family was going to have her committed. I saved her, and myself, to be cut loose without work or home. It was a rough year. Last week the girlfrend e-mailed me that she'd broke her elbow. But that's another story.

Answer 4

Make sure he is actually in the process and not just saying so, look for your county clerk online and most of the time you can see the dockets(cases), and at least that way you will know if the divorce is filed in court, try googling county name clerk of courts, if he is in the process just be patient, sometimes a divorce can be long and bitter specially if there are kids in the picture, Good Luck!

Answer 5

at least he left for u. that's a rearity to start with. but it's good to be cautious, do check to be sure he is actually in the process and what's holding it. n in the mean while, do a bit of soul searching, do u really love him? does he make u happy? are u able to discuss issues no matter what they are? if u really love him and he loves u 2 and he is actually getting divorced then be patient and supportive. if on the other hand u don't quite love him or he is not getting divorced, then be careful and do bring it up for discussion. take care.

Answer 6

Maybe your b/f isn't really going to divorce his wife but is telling you it's taking a long time. Most married men who have an affair, don't usually get a divorce, so get prepared. I mean no disrespect, but I always wondered how couples can be happy when one has cheated on their spouse. He could cheat on you in the future. If so, you'll know how your b/f's ex feels.

Answer 7

The only way a divorce proceeding takes more time is if there are many assests invloved, children, etc and there is fighting over it. Otherwise it really takes no time at all once all the paperwork is filled out. I would ask about it. Myabe he isn't ready to let go yet?

Answer 8

Wow, ummm you just were apart of breaking up a marriage. He promised to love that women through thick and thin. I wouldn't even date someone who wasn't yet divorced, even if they were seperated because they might get back together. There are sometimes good reasons to get a divorce but divorce sucks big time for those involved and it hurts a lot of people. I just don't respect your decision from the start to go with this guy.

Answer 9

Yes, move out until it is final. But you won't listen to that, so one wonders, why is it taking so long? Most states should never take longer than one year, and often it can be done in six months. Maybe your boyfriend or his wife, and yes, he is still married, wants to get it back together. Which follows the next bit of advice, do not get involved with a married man who still has issues to take care of. The only one who will lost is you. So, move out until it is final and cool the relationship with him, and see where he ends up.

Answer 10

Unless he is EXTREMELY wealthy and they share multiple assets that they are fighting over, divorce does NOT take a long time at all.

You shouldn't have gotten involved with a married man. Should have found one of your own. Regardless of the state of his marriage - he was married and it is never right to date a married person. Plus it leads to all sorts of problems - just like the one you're experiencing now. Also, he cheated on her, do you really think he won't cheat on you too? Everyone starts out happy and in love. Apparently, when he feels unhappy, he cheats.