have a funny feeling that this is not working, we have a youngster and i love my wife and my child with all my heart but from the wife's side i feel no affection, i have tried everything, flowers meals telling her how i feel, asking if there is anything wrong. asked if she still loved me and i got blanked. I really cant leave them that would break me....HELP
2007-05-06 11:01:27 · 8 answers · asked by tricky0000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe you should have a talk to her about it. How old is your youngster? if he or she is quite young that might have something to do with it she could be having those after baby blues, this usually happens a few months after the baby is born. Maybe ask her to see if it's something you might have done that you don't realize. Open lines of communication, that's the only thing I can suggest.Or if she's not willing to talk maybe just let her have her space for awhile and do your own thing and don't forget to help take care of the Baby!!! like changing diapers, feeding and bathing offering to watch him or her while your wife goes shopping or something, things like this might really make a difference, this might help if you do this more often)
2007-05-06 11:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this often happens after a child is born. The child is soooo needy that the wife forgets that the husband can't be taken for granted. What you need to do is get yourself into some marriage counseling, and soon. She needs to see that her man and her marriage is not stable just because she is taking care of the youngster. It is not over, but it does need help, yes.
2007-05-06 18:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a funny feeling then it's usually right. It takes two to make a marriage break down but it sounds like you are doing your bit. If she won't communicate with you about what the problem is then i you can only guess whats wrong. I would ask her to go to Relate with you. x
2007-05-07 10:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a tryal separation its true the saying goes you dont know what you have got till you have lost it.
your wife is probebly confused on what she wants you need to take control of the situation if she dont want to talk it could go 2 ways
she could enjoy the single life and want to get a divorce or she could hate having to do eveything by herself then she would apprciate what you did and she could miss you and want you back
i think this is the only way forward cause if you carry on how you are your headed down a bad road just think about it at least you would no what is a few weeks or months away when it could all correct its self and you could have a happy marrage again
good luck
2007-05-07 03:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by terihart_46 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's obviously busy with the young one. Depending on the child's age. It's a major life changing thing. She may even be depressed. Why not plan a weekend away together? Find a baby sitter. She may open up to you and tell you what's wrong. Don't leave them, give her time.
2007-05-06 18:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by Vixx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's depressed, of course she loves you just remain sweet and supportive, she'll come round. Sounds like a holiday is in order.
2007-05-06 19:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to couseling to get your marriage re-kindled again. Good luck and hang in there - you sound like a great husband.
2007-05-06 18:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by dreamkilter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the flowers and try using your tongue.
2007-05-07 17:55:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋