Is it always the cheaters fault?
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Why isn't it looked at as bad when the woman cheats out of unfullfilment
2007-05-06 09:13:52 · 8 answers · asked by Angry EX-DEM 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't say women get equal bashings...I been reading in hear a lot!
2007-05-06 09:14:31 · update #1
I wouldn't snake on my wife. But I know a guys wife who has. She defends and tries to justify herself.
2007-05-06 09:16:28 · update #2
She left his house and only showed up there once to get the meds for her sour taco then left...I know I wouldn't keep her. She's a mess!
2007-05-06 09:17:37 · update #3
He has their house up for sale too. Bad sign...for her anyway.
2007-05-06 09:19:30 · update #4
To me, it's why you step out.
If you just want sex, maybe because you're not getting it at home, I see nothing wrong with that, that's just physical stuff.
If it's for emotional reasons, then you need a divorce.
There's always been a double standard for women, for everything, even our laws treat women differently.
2007-05-06 09:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually it doesn't. Believe it or not some couples have found that when one partner has strayed they have stayed and worked things out and their marriage is stronger.
A person who tries to justify why they did what they did has still not found the capacity to admit their guilt in the situation.
I am not saying that most marriages end in divorce over this. Some do and some do not. It depends on the people involved and who is willing to accept accountablity.
After that forgivness is a big part. If a spouse who has been cheated on can not move on past that point then the marriage is pretty much a moot point.
Some couples though can both point to each of them and said that it was communication, job, lack of job, lack of communication or just the daily life that put them in a position to cheat.
In today's society women who strayed where always pictured as the "down-trodden woman". The one who raised the kids, cleaned house while the husband worked and partied with the secretary.
Views have changed now though...there are many men who now stay home with the kids and the roles have been reversed . The woman has the high power job and the man is content to be the father figure 100% of the time.
So when you come right down to it....cheating will never justify unconditional divorce...if anything it just justifies that when unhappy ....people stray.
2007-05-06 16:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by mshellrosie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that many times women seem to get off easy for cheating by making up excuses of mental or physical abuse that drove them to cheat. But there is no excuse for men o women to cheat. The number of third parties that don't even care if the person is married is ridiculous too. I don't understand how or why people cheat. If they don't want to be with the person anymore how difficult is it to say it's over? No instead many in our society feel the need to conduct secret lives behind the person they claim to love's back.
2007-05-06 16:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Vickie S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Adultery is no longer grounds for divorce in most states. I don't know what an "unconditional divoce" is, do you mean a divorce based on irreconcilable differences? That is grounds in itself. You can no longer divorce simply based on infedelity. If it is infedelity coupled with some form of abuse then it goes under the heading of "cruelty".
And yes it IS the cheater's fault because the cheater has a CHOICE. If a woman isn't fullfilled in her marriage she should seek a divorce FIRST and have that decree of divorce BEFORE she phucks around.
2007-05-06 16:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whether your female or male cheating is never justified by any excuses, bottom line your in any relationship married or not and its not working and you tried all possible avenues, then leave to me there is no reason why you should do that to anyone because there is a way out of it..
2007-05-06 16:23:29 · answer #5 · answered by Renee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well no matter how you look at the situation cheating is cheating and regardless it shouldnt be done, but instead of putting the blame on one person it is on several, that lead to the point of going or getting ready to go and do something that you may regret later, i say talk to your spouse and try to set up your time for togotherness and make things work rather then trying to go else where.
2007-05-06 16:20:35 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug7172004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean when you say "it isn't bad for a woman to cheat".............I threw my wife out immediately when I found out she was cheating. "out of unfullfilment"......what kind of lane excuse is that???
2007-05-06 16:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by ateez9 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It does in my house.
2007-05-06 17:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋