Have you ever been physically abused.....?

Question

by someone that you love?
A parent, spouse, or other?
And how did you handle it?

Answer 1

I was and I abused many people by the time I was twenty. My mother had no way of controlling me but to drag me around by my hair, holding guns to my head, or beating with belts or fists to scare me into acting right. When I was growing up I thought it was all my fault. I had sister and brother to protect too. But, being ten I was angry that I had to protect them and hurt them too. That was such a horrible offense that I (because my mother did that to me that I took it out on them) felt awful about myself. And I still feel awful about it.

Later I married someone that did that to me too. He hurt me a lot when he was coming down from his high from drugs. By no means was I perfect because I was still fighting post pardom depression and my childhood and worrying if I would do the same thing to my daughter. While still married to him we would throw parties (I was 19) I would numb myself with booze during that time. His uncle molested me thinking that I was past out on the couch. I remember waking up to that and faining sleep. Praying that it would stop soon. I would have to say that is NOT the answer to solve anything. It just opens up a gateway of more pain and abuse. There is so much more that has happened to me that I would rather not get into. But, people who are abused DO convince themselves that it is their fault. They suffer from depression and being afraid of people. They try to seek out a way of gaining power through alcohol and drugs. That is not the way to anything but more pain and sorrow. Although, I never touched drugs...I am a recovering alcoholic. For the last two years I have been sober. I do not remember much when I was drunk and still have pain over the fact that I might have hurt people while I was on my way down. My best advice to you is seek out a professional persons help. They understand and will not judge. Sort through the feelings you have. It will take many years to do but, do not take the path I did. Save yourself the heartache, sorrow, remorse, and 12 steps.

Answer 2

when u say abused, that is a very general term as u may well already know. I was abused by my father who had a terrible temper. He abused me verbally and physically. It wasnt sexual or anything like that. He drank and sometimes was a abusive drunk. Otherwise, it was because of a bad report card or something that I did that he didnt like. He took it out on the whole family but especially me, the oldest. I hung in there and told myself I would never be like that as a father and I havent. I was true to my word. I love my kids and involved as much as I can. They respect me most of the time as most teens do. I didnt have to beat them to get my point across. obviously, I dont believe in it. What happened to me was in the 1960s and my father was from the old school of discipline
and those were different times.
Today, if it happens, there is someone to go to. There is hotlines for this type of things and I would highly recommend that if you are getting abused, phyically, slapping and punching, mentally, calling you fawl names and stupid on a regular basis, as well as, sexually, you better call right away!!
You should never have to put up with this like I did.

Answer 3

I have never been physically abused, but I have talked to people who have. As difficult as it is, I would recommend that you talk to a responsible person about it as soon as possible, such as a counselor, but definitely someone with authority, even a female police officer, someone who will be both sympathetic, but informed enough to make a good judgment about further options and provide protection if needed. Even if you write a letter or email, depending on your situation.
Doing something responsible about the abuse is very important to how you feel about it later and the outcome.

Answer 4

By someone I was going out with and was living with at the time. He was very posessive and I'm the complete opposite (free spirit, rebel and all...) I never gave in to his orders, I always rebelled, and when I did he'd either hit me, or shove me up against a wall or even worse. When he hit me, I'd always say "is that all you got?", when he'd shove me against the wall holding me by my throat I just didn't give in (since I was unable to speak with my throat held tight) and the worst thing I've ever been through with him was when he held a -which I thought was loaded; he made me believe it, pretended to load it with shells - shotgun to my head... I simply told him "you can't pull the trigger anyway."

Lucky for me I was right. I left him shortly after that event.

Answer 5

AN EX HUSBAND
I WAITED UNTIL HE FELL ASLEEP ONE NIGHT AND
STUCK A FORK IN HIS BACK (HE'S OK) AND I LEFT.......
HE NEVER BOTHERED ME AFTER THAT........WEASELS DON'T LIKE PEOPLE WHO FIGHT BACK

Answer 6

sure have,father