How does a blended family live harmoniously?

Question

If you are a part of one, please share how you all have managed to function as a unit and maybe even all love one another.

Jennyann - too bad you feel that way
Girlyworld - like, oh my gosh, I never would have thought of that. Byeeeeeee.

Answer 1

well, it's hard getting along with your family is a hard thing to do even if you aren't blended my family is a poster for the UN my sister is Cuban, my brothers are Bahamian, my daughter is half Haitian, my stepfather is from Guatemala we've almost got every color of the rainbow try not to think about in terms that you are a blended family think of it as your family titles kill and the stereo type and hold you back just try your best and understand that there is gonna be conflict just as you have doubts, questions, unresolved feeling they have them too you are not the only one in the boat it takes time but hold on because the end having a family is a beautiful thing

Answer 2

I think children have an innate ability to sense love. There's simply no other explanation for why, almost immediately, my two children were fighting with each other over who gets to sit with their stepmom, etc... After 3 years it has finally died down some, but they both tell her that they love her and openly show affection to her no matter who's around (including their bio mother). When we're all together we operate like a normal family and the kids like that. Simply put, there's love among us. Their bio mother has been furiously jealous and vindictive and tried in every way to cause problems, even to the point of telling the kids that their stepmom is a bad person (in so many ways), but gladly, the kids just aren't buying it. My wife treats them like they're her own, not by ordering them around, but by spending time with them and loving them- THAT is the key! Their bio mom is too busy chasing the almighty dollar to give them the time they need from her, but I've gotten better results talking to a wall, so...

Answer 3

You have to start by being realistic. It's a blended family, which means that each person and each part of that new family has their own past and that needs to be acknowledged and respected. Furthermore, understand that just because you're all a family now doesn't mean you all have to like each other. I don't like every member of my biological family, the chances of me liking every new member of the family is slim. But I do love them, I do respect them.

When my father died, my mother married a widower. I was all for the relationship from the beginning for my mother's sake. My sister was a bit leary. But we've made it work because my step-father accepts the fact that he can be a father-figure to us, but he isn't our father. He'll never be a substitute for the real thing. Just like my mother can never be a substitute mother for his children. My parents (mom & stepdad) built their own house so that neither is living in the other's home that they created with their first spouse. But there are touches of his wife and my dad in the new place. There are pictures of both of them everywhere, just like there are pictures of all the kids and grandkids there. My stepfather brought some of his wife's things with him and my mother brought some of my dad's things with her. We talk openly about both of the previous marriages because there's no reason not to.

As for all the kids and grandkids, I can't say that we all get along all the time. We're lucky that all of the kids are adults, so we all have our lives and don't live together. But even when we argue or disagree, we still love each other because we're family now. We're in this for our parents who don't deserve to be alone the rest of their lives just because their kids don't like the idea of them marrying someone new.

Just be patient and hoenst with everyone. It'll work out.

Answer 4

the genuinely situation i visit furnish you with is to ask them how will they get to heaven for the bible says this is necessary be born back to enter the dominion of God and in case you do not have the reality you'll bypass to HELL . in John ch 3 v16 Jesus reported ( for God loved the international that he despatched his genuinely son ,that whoever believes in him shall no longer perish yet have eternal life.For Jesus Christ got here so as that each and each and every one would comprehend that he's Lord . Shalom

Answer 5

Impossible

Answer 6

It was difficult and I will be honest, it took years. Now, with the child grown, she loves her step Dad very much and appreciates him as her DAD.

Answer 7

With harmonicas